5 Signs You Have Definitely Judged an Introvert

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We have problem that we need to talk about. Do you know someone who prefers keeping to themselves? Someone who’d rather spend time alone reading, writing, thinking, whatever they like. Their idea of fun involves staying at home or spending time out in the midst of nature. Ring a bell? Yes, I’m talking about our peers who’re described as Introverts.

No, introverts aren’t the problem. Rather they face a major problem – that of being judged.

Judging you
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“We got an introvert on our hands”

Let me show you:

1. You don’t understand why they won’t open up –

Setting – House party

Random Dude – So tell me about yourself

Introvert – Umm..uh..I..

Random Dude – Okay

Karan Johar judging you
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“So shy he is”

2. You think they’re nerdy for not going out

Colleague – Hey what plans this weekend?

Introvert – Oh busy weekend, have my book to complete, some games to play on XBox and sleep a lot

Colleague – But what plans?

Introvert – I just told you my plans

Colleague – Okay

Tom Cruise judging you
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“What a nerd!”

3. You don’t understand how they can be happy being alone

Colleague – So what did you do this weekend?

Introvert – Oh I went for a two day hike.

Colleague – Nice, with whom?

Introvert – No one, I went alone. It was so much fun

Colleague – Okay

Brandi Marie judging you
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“What a wierdo!”

4. You’re puzzled when they don’t want to hangout

Friend – Hey you wanna hangout tomorrow?

Introvert – Uh..who all will be there?

Friend – Oh no one. Just Madhu, Sally, Arun……<Names 10 more people>

Introvert – Umm, no I’ll pass <Makes a generic excuse>

Friend – Okay

K-Pop judging you
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“Why can’t she just hangout with people like a normal person?”

5. You think them underconfident for not speaking up

Project Partner – Hey, you did this whole section of the project. Wanna present this to the class?

Introvert – No, it’s all yours

Project Partner – Okay

BBC 3 judging you
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“Man, he’s so underconfident!”

So, as you can see, introverts are judged a lot.

“Shy”, “weird”, “nerd”, “aloof”, these are but a few of the many tags that our introverted friends are tired of being unfairly associated with.

Introverts are anything but those things. Technically speaking, Introverts are people who’re too sensitive to the neurotransmitter – Dopamine. What is Dopamine you ask? Well, as Psychology Today puts it –

It’s a chemical that helps control the brain’s reward and pleasure centers. Dopamine also helps regulate movement and emotional responses, and it enables us not only to see rewards, but to take action to move toward them

Setting aside the scientific mumbo-jumbo, it simply means that in surroundings like a noisy supermarket, or a party with lots of people talking, introverts tend to get overwhelmed, and shut down. Unfortunately, they get judged for this.

Infact, if anything, introverts are better than extroverts  at a lot of things, including – you won’t believe it – public speaking.

Introverts get unfairly tagged
Source – Introvert Doodles

So let’s be a little more mindful about our introverted friends and respect them for who they are.

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