What went wrong? Is it Akhil’s fault?
Children who are usually seen over-demanding actually have reduced their mode of connection with parents. Demands are their only way to connect with their parents. Due to Akhil’s over-demanding nature, parents were overlooking the actual course of events that took place in the family.
When discussed in detail, she realized that with time, in last 1 year, she has been ignoring a lot of important things in her life.
It seems mobile has become an important part of our daily lives and we overlook the problems caused by it. More importantly, only children are believed to be falling in the trap of excessive mobile usage. Not all mothers spend too much time on Whatsapp, but television, which is another form is addiction is also been misused in many families. With changing times, we have shifted from TV to internet. Internet has become a source of worry, similar to what TV was considered around 2-3 decades ago. However, problem is not with internet or TV, its the lifestyle that has been changed and the quality of time that we give to our family members.
Solution is not in snatching phone from Akhil or complaining him for his tantrums. Tantrums are due to lack of quality relationships where both parents and children are not respecting or understanding each other. If they spend more time together, it will build up mutual trust and understanding and it will become easier to understand each other’s point of view.Note: This story is based on one of the cases handled by Tarun Verma, clinical psychologist.