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Sexual Dissatisfaction With Partner – How Can We Be Open About It?

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“I have been faking orgasms for over forty years now”, said a women on a popular webpage while discussing sex related issues. It might seem pretty shocking and funny to someone reading it for the first time. But the truth is it can happen to anyone, even you at some point of time in a relationship. There are more than just this one women sitting behind the bars of the society, unable to talk about it.

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Sexual dissatisfaction is the most common issue that couples neglect to discuss. But the effects of having physical intimacy without satisfaction can be deep emotional discontent. It has been often observed that many heterosexual women complain about being sexually dissatisfied. The most common reasons behind this is, they have less or no knowledge about their body or they are scared of discussing the issue with their male counterparts. But then sexual dissatisfaction has been observed among men equally and they seem to be very uncomfortable in expressing and discussing the issue.

Sex is easier said than done. It is a pleasure both the parties should enjoy. And this can never happen unless there is communication. It has been observed that most couples who claim to be having wonderful sex are the ones who communicate. They look at sex as something beyond just a physical act; as a way of bonding their relationship better. And there is clearly no bonding unless you figure out a common comfort zone. This will nurture a better relationship as transparency is the most essential aspect of being in a relationship.

A big NO to faking
If you think faking is going to give you a better relationship, I suppose you are completely wrong. It is just going to make the cream layer look all great, while deep down the roots are still vulnerable. Faking is not a way of protecting your partners feeling. Rather give their feelings better respect by being polite and frank with them. Be a good listener and pay attention to their concerns and dissatisfaction too.
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Cut the barrier down

Remember, if you want it then ask for it. First know your body well and don’t be shy to explore. Discuss with your partner what you like and don`t during intercourse. Your partners will become better only when you help them break the barrier of having to believe in myths, and step into reality by having an actual discussion about it. Review the act casually later so you get to know how much you both enjoyed the act together.

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Discuss anywhere but on the bed
Most people even today think discussing sex is not casual or it is not something couples can discuss. As couples it is very important that you discuss about it to improve and enjoy a better experience. Also it is just as causal as any other topic couples can discuss about. But make sure you don’t bring up such discussions on the bed. The danger of such discussions taking a wrong direction is very much possible here. Tingle the topic casually during a coffee or meal and you will surely get to know a lot.
 
Above all Compliment
Stop looking for perfection and compliment every slightest improvement you see. Ignore any preconceived notions you have about ways to enjoy sex. There is just one way – Take it your way. Don’t be shy to ask for what you want during or after sex. Use moaning and verbal utterances to compliment during the intercourse to make your partner feel better and also know how you feel.
Laugh out the nervousness and step forward to ask them “what do you like the most about our sex life”. Put the question forward to turn your sex life more intimate and enjoyable.

Varshnee Raj

Varshnee Raj, an engineer by background, loves to invest her time in things which can improve her knowledge and share them through her writings. She has interest in craft work and painting. She also feels powerful to be able to help people during their low times through her words.

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