Is Crying For The Weak?

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He fled out of the room as he banged the door with a thump! He could still hear the noise which he didn’t want to so he covered his ears with the palm of his hands pressing them as tight as he could. As he sat in the corner with his eyes shut, he felt something cold on his cheek. Apparently it had travelled all the way from his eyes and he wiped it off quickly reminding himself ‘Crying is for the weak.’ Can you relate?
 
It’s a notion well fit in the minds of all that crying is for weaklings. When a child cries, parents try to console by saying the same -well in an indirect manner- that, “you’re a strong boy/girl so don’t cry.

How many times in our lives have we tried to hold it in? Maybe when your colleagues ask you about your spouse and the image of him hitting you flashes in front of your eyes. Maybe when you lose someone precious. Maybe you are guilty and the only way to vent out that anger and guilt is somehow shut. I can go on and on with this and maybe that’s why he reminded himself that ‘crying is for the weak.’


Well, actually no. It isn’t. Read it twice and two more times again.

Ever wondered why the doctor gently hits the rear of a new born child? What happens next? It cries doesn’t it? It helps it breathe. Crying is indeed natural and a way to vent out everything that burdens your heart and clutters your mind. It lightens the burden on your heart. You realise you are a human and by that you realise you have feelings.

When people don’t vent it out, they lash it on others hampering many things. Tell me how can such a person be strong? Strength resonates with love, courage, etc. How will you know hurt when you haven’t been through it?

And how will you then know what happiness is?

Crying is the heart’s way to show that you are becoming stronger. Even the Prophets have cried and so have world leaders. It takes lot more than guts to accept our feelings. To feel the pain, the fall, the rise, the end.

That yes, I am strong enough to cry and accept my emotions instead of lying to my own soul. That yes, I am becoming stronger and if something hurts me, I’ll make sure it doesn’t happen to anybody else. That yes, I am a human and my biggest strength is in being me.

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‘Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before—more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle.’ –Charles Dickens from Great Expectations.

So don’t worry. It’s good for health, not the first time, you aren’t the only one and it’s doctor’s recommended.

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