Adarsh Nim is a 27-year-old counseling psychologist in Delhi. He is pursuing his psychology doctorate from Bennett University, Greater Noida.
He belongs to the city of Jhansi in Uttar Pradesh. His family includes his parents, elder brother, and elder sister. Adarsh adds that although his family has been nurturing, he has had ups and downs with them. His relationship with them improved with continued efforts from his side after he grew up.
Adarsh explains that, as the household’s youngest member, he received the best guidance from all the elders regarding his education and career choices.
After picking commerce as his intermediary course, Adarsh didn’t want to pursue the apparent choice of B.com for undergraduate studies. He consulted his seniors, family members and friends.
“Every time I came and discussed a new choice with my dad, he would say, ‘Do whatever you wish to do’, which was very supportive of him. After gaining insights from my sister’s friend, I finally landed in psychology.”
Adarsh explains that his interest in psychology eventually grew stronger, pushing him to pursue it for undergraduate and postgraduate studies. After his master’s, Adarsh became a practising psychologist for two years. As he decided to widen his scope and go into research, he joined a PhD in psychology from Bennett University.
“I mean it when I say I have worked a lot for my career. I was an average student during school times, but as I started college, I improved my GPA and ensured I got placed in the best universities for my master’s and PhD.”
Adarsh shares that when he was in the initial stage of learning psychology, he started working on his mental health and his relationship with his close members. That was how he could improve his bond with his family.
When Adarsh started his PhD, he faced certain difficulties in his romantic relationship. Things were hard for him and his ex-partner to deal with, and Adarsh understood that he needed external assistance to analyse the situation.
He recalled the introduction session during the first week of his college, during which the faculty explained Bennett University’s subscription to the YourDOST platform as part of its student wellness program. Since the platform offered online sessions from any location and a choice to be anonymous, Adarsh found it more convenient.
“Coming from a psychology background, the initial sessions were a little challenging because I wanted things my way and only my way. It took me a couple of sessions to keep my self-diagnosing tendencies and be grounded in the sessions.”
Overcoming this challenge, Adarh opened up to the therapist and began introspecting himself. He explained that despite being in the same field, he could fear being judged before the sessions, but as Adarsh started the sessions, he felt more comfortable and at ease talking to his therapist.
“During that phase in my life, I was having a rough patch; my relationship took an unhealthy turn and remained there for quite some time. My ex-partner didn’t agree to do couples therapy as well, so the efforts were one-sided too.”
Adarsh elaborates that he started taking the sessions and eventually ended the relationship because he realised they were going in different directions. He explains that he continued the sessions even after his break-up to cope with the situation.
“I was feeling vulnerable, frustrated, sad and angry at the same time. It was overwhelming. The sessions were a healthy place for me to express those emotions.”
Adarsh adds that the therapist made him use techniques such as taking enough breaks between work to avoid burnout and taking a ‘small breather’ from a difficult situation for a few minutes to gather and return.
Adarsh elaborates that all the techniques helped him move forward from his situation and improved his professional life as well. He started using the techniques whenever he had to relax his mind, brainstorm in a situation, etc.
“It took me almost a year, but eventually I got here, and I’m delighted, content and happy with all the relationships I have in my life.”
Adarsh is grateful to his therapist for giving him a great learning experience and helping him handle a challenging situation.
“I was a completely different person before the therapy sessions, but now I have improved myself in a good way. I can confidently rate myself 5 out of 5 in terms of improvement, and I will work on going beyond the scale and getting to 6 out of 5.”
We wish Adarsh all the best in his journey and are delighted to be part of his progress.
Adarsh’s Warrior Tips:
1.“It is okay to feel overwhelmed and overburdened by emotions; pause for a moment and let them sink in.”
2.“Relapse also means you have made progress till then; Accept yourself, start over and move forward.”
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