Geeta is a 26-year-old senior consultant at a corporate company in Gurgaon. She used to work as an Associate Consultant in HR at Virtusa.
She comes from a nuclear family in Chandigarh, where her parents run their own business and care for the family. She has a brother who is twelve years younger than her, and he is currently doing higher secondary school.
Geeta explains that her childhood was the best time of her life. She was the only child until she was 12 years old, and she loved the care and attention she received. Geeta adds that since both her parents were working, she used to help them out with the upbringing of her brother.
Geeta attended school and undergraduate studies in her hometown and moved to Bangalore for her postgraduate studies at Christ University, specialising in organisational psychology. At the beginning of her career, she worked in Chennai for over two years and moved to Gurgaon, where she stayed in the HR profession.
She has always been keen on learning and understanding human behaviour and thoughts better, which led her to psychology. Geeta is also a professional national-level softball player. She is interested in singing, dancing, and fitness.
Geeta has been very close to her mom and brother but not much with her father, but she says that this has improved as she has grown. Despite being on good terms, Geeta explains that she had to go through a rough patch with her parents when they disagreed on a decision regarding her future.
“I was working in Chennai when I had a conflict with my parents. Being in a city far away from home where I didn’t know the local language or have many friends, I started feeling isolated and got into a lot of emotional distress.”
Geeta says that after a while, she and her parents stopped communicating enough and didn’t visit each other for months. She elaborates that her parents stopped initiating calls to her and stayed firm in their opinions about her future.
Geeta tried to convince them as much as she could. They also wanted to compel her through emotional means, which was challenging for her to handle. She explains that leaning on her friends for support didn’t help her, as they had different opinions and perspectives, which Geeta couldn’t connect well to.
While fighting the battle, Geeta noticed the emails she received from her employer when she used to work at Virtusa about their subscription to YourDOST. She decided to seek the experts for an unbiased perspective and mental support. Initially, Geeta connected with Ms Anjali for the sessions, and she recollects feeling heard and comfortable.
“I didn’t feel alien in the sessions as they flowed naturally. Ms Anjali was welcoming and guided me towards solutions to every issue that bothered me.”
Geeta elaborates that she felt good during her sessions and kept coming back to schedule her subsequent sessions. She explains that she needed someone to see her situation from the outside and help her fit the pieces of her life’s puzzle.
She remembers that her dad was harsh to her on several calls about the issues, which triggered a panic attack in her. Even though her cousins and friends were supportive, Geeta still couldn’t make a clear-cut decision. She felt more confused.
“My dilemma was either to take the extreme way and stay away from my parents or bring them to consensus. I wasn’t ready for the extreme way. It made me angry as well as anxious.”
Understanding how she felt, the therapist gently directed Geeta toward helping her gain the confidence to make a firm decision. The therapist also asked Geeta questions to help her understand her thought patterns.
She explains that Ms Anjali gave her a nonjudgmental space and listened to her when she was vulnerable and insecure, which gave her a sense of strength. Geeta adds that every conversation she had in the sessions was active, engaging, and never one-sided.
“Ms Anjali guided me to make sense of my emotions, which was extremely significant when I felt my life was falling apart. It helped me cope with my situation and struggle and manage the stress levels I had.”
Eventually overcoming the emotional turmoil and keeping aside the reactions from her parent’s side, Geeta made a clear decision and conveyed it to her parents in an assertive way. Seeing her confidence and firmness, they came down from their position and agreed to her choice.
“I doubted myself for almost a year, and I’m grateful to my counselor for helping me choose with conviction and empathising with me in my time of need. Everything she told me in each session stuck to me, and I apply them to all my situations.”
As Geeta rates herself 5 out of 5 for her progress, we wish her growth and happiness.
Geeta’s Warrior Tips:
1.“If you are struggling, don’t think about people’s opinions and seek help without hesitation.”
2.“Don’t be hard on yourself; show kindness and empathy for the inner you.”
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