“Desire! That’s the one secret of everyone’s career. Not education. Not being born with hidden talents. Desire.” – Johnny Carson
26-year-old Mehfishan has travelled to various corners of the country due to her father who was transferred throughout his job years. Mehfishan who works at Moglix currently has pursued engineering as her field of study after completing her schooling in Assam.
Due to the constant change in location, Mehfishan had developed amazing adaptability to adjust anywhere she went. This also led her to grow interested in learning how to be more independent and understand herself on a deep-rooted level. As her ‘being independent’ phase grew over her, so did Mehfishan’s demand for her ambitions to succeed took over.
Mehfishan took up CAT coaching and scored a good enough percentile, but she wanted to score a better rank and took up another course meanwhile.
“I was going through the college placement season. I used to clear 1-2 rounds and then every time get rejected for the final round.”
During the placements, Mehfinshan started facing a list of rejections which made her question her self-worth. Not only was she growing doubtful about her career prospects, but also developing a sense of uneasiness to see her friends and peers get better jobs. She started comparing herself with everyone around her. Mehfishan’s urge to do well started taking a toll on her mental health due to the inferiority issue, seeing others around her.
“Whenever you come out to see people of the same college getting ahead of you and see that they are doing well, you start tallying on your status.”
Mehfishan’s constant stress regarding her career and the growing self-doubt developed an inferiority complex in her. Mehfishan knew that this trait wasn’t making the right impact on her overall personality. Mehfishan grew a lack of patience and was looking down on herself more when she should have been focusing on growing towards her career. She tried to share her thoughts with some of her peers but as it wasn’t helping, Mehfishan soon started bottling her emotions.
“I decided to consult a counselor as I knew that I needed help. I had no preconceptions about counseling but I was sceptical about how it would turn out for me, but I was ready to t ake that first step.”
Mehfishan got to know about YourDOST and their counseling services through her organisational resources and got connected with Ms Mahima, a counselor from YourDOST. She started her counseling journey via chat sessions.
Mehfishan described Mahima to be a good listener who gave her a lot of techniques to get over her negative thoughts. So, gathering some faith, Mehfishan went ahead with the sessions. She suggested some breathing exercises that gave control over her anxiety. Mehfishan was also advised to stay busy with her work to avoid feelings of stress.
“I started gaining clarity on my goals and realised that my anxiety had started to lessen. My negative thoughts have reduced.”
Mehfishan extends hearty gratitude to her counselor who helped her out to handle herself. Mehfishan had developed a good grip over herself and could finally focus on growing her career.
She appreciates that the YourDOST platform was easily accessible from the comfort of her home and describes this experience as “enlightening”. Mehfishan rates her overall development through counseling with a 3.5 out of 5. We, at YourDOST, feel obliged by the same and want to wish her all the best for her future endeavours.
Mehfishan’s Warrior Tips:
1. If you see a change in your behaviour, catch hold of a counselor. Disclose and discuss your issues and try to find a solution to it.
2. Counselors can give an overview of the situation and help you come out of it.
3. It’s good to address your problem else it will keep on getting bigger and bigger.
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