“Family is what I live for,” says Ravisha, a 25-year-old engineering graduate who has also completed her Master’s in Business Administration. She works as a Senior Analyst in the client experience operation in Phreesia while balancing being a responsible daughter and a loving partner.
Ravisha explains that her parents have always been protective of her since childhood. As they lived as a joint family, Ravisha spent more time with her grandparents than her parents.
“Being the eldest son, my father was the breadwinner as his siblings were still teenagers. I was the first child in the family, so everyone used to pamper me but also be extremely strict and protective.”
Ravisha adds that she was shy and introverted as a child and used to love classical dance, such as Bharatanatyam.
She explains that many things in her life changed during her teenage years as she grew. She discontinued her interest in dance and started feeling she wasn’t receiving enough affection from her parents. At the same time, she also met someone in school who showed her enormous love and support, and they fell in love.
“My partner is my ‘high school sweetheart’; we have been dating for 11 years. Apart from my parents and my fiance, nothing else matters to me more in this world. They are my everything.”
Ravisha explains that having a deeper bond with these three people is her top priority, and there were times when she felt misunderstandings shook this foundation. One of those times, things got more complicated with her partner, and Ravisha was clueless about handling it.
She elaborates that things were hectic, and she had just started a new job. At the same time, one of her cousins met with an accident, and she was having issues in her relationship, which went to the verge of ending. All of the anxiety and panic started turning into anger issues for Ravisha. She recollects losing control over her emotions.
She knew her company’s subscription to the YourDOST platform for prioritising employee mental health. Ravisha decided to use it and booked a session.
“I clearly remember my first session; I was having the worst day of my life. Job stress, fear and anxiety about life, everything was piling up, and I was having panic attacks. I just logged into YourDOST and spoke to an expert.”
She explains that the therapist asked her how she felt at the beginning of the session. Ravisha elaborates that nobody has ever asked her that, and with each sentence they spoke, the therapist listened with the intent to understand her situation completely.
Ravisha explained to the therapist how having a quarrel or misunderstanding with her close circle made her feel. She recollects being afraid to hurt them because of her frustration and anger issues.
“I wasn’t something I could comprehend. When I get overwhelmed, I used to panic and start sweating immediately. My heartbeat used to go high, and I blurt out hurtful things to my family and my partner. It was a horrible phase.”
Understanding Ravisha’s emotions, the therapist first validated her feelings and made her feel slightly calm and ready to work on herself. She was made to write down all her happy thoughts with her partner, collegues and family in different chits and put them in a jar. The counselor insisted that Ravisha add her future happy memories, too.
“My counselor asked me to read out a random chit from the jar whenever I have a negative emotion, which has been extremely helpful. I still have that jar on my office desk. Reading one note from it started making my whole day beautiful.”
Ravisha has also suggested some breathing techniques for her panic and anxiety issues. She explained that it had been of enormous help as she could calm down and feel at ease every time she had an uncomfortable emotion.
She also started taking time before responding to any situation instead of reacting immediately. Ravisha adds that the therapist made her realise it is okay to take space to understand and process things and that she shouldn’t worry about offending people at the stake of her mental health.
Since Ravisha likes to talk about her thoughts, the counselor also helped her start with a video journaling technique, which she incorporated daily. Employing all of these techniques, Ravisha could feel her anxiety levels decreasing tremendously, and she felt that her life had changed for the better.
Ravisha eventually sorted her issues with her partner with the help of therapy and elucidates that she is currently in a happy space. She feels elated that they have hit the wedding bells and are getting married in January 2025.
“I feel thankful to the amazing person I got as my therapist, and I still use the YourDOST app for daily affirmations and weekly mindfulness. It helps me stay positive and rate myself 4 out of 5 regarding my improvement.”
As Ravisha is all set to move towards the next phase in her life, we wish her all the best and hope for enormous happiness and love in her life.
Ravisha’s Warrior Tips:
1.“Today’s youngsters have access to everything in one click on the internet, so being mindful of our actions becomes essential.”
2.“Take full responsibility for yourself and seek a professional when something goes wrong instead of depending on your circle.”
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