Alan (name changed) is a 27-year-old IT employee from Datacultr’s digital marketing team. Alan has lived in Gurgaon for the past five years of his career.
Alan considers himself a highly passionate person who has even made a list of things in his notebook to do this year, from sports to dealing with his fears. He elaborates that he is an overthinker to a great extent, and Alan even fears driving automobiles, which he intends to learn and excel in as part of his bucket list.
Raised in a family of four that includes his parents and his sister, Alan has a great relationship with them. During childhood, Alan was bullied and laughed at by his classmates for his dark skin tone. Even his teachers didn’t support Alan as he was an average student compared to his bullies. This experience caused him a lot of trauma. He explains that he hates it if somebody laughs at him for any reason.
As he grew, Alan’s childhood trauma caused him to have intimacy issues in his romantic relationships, which led to the two relationships he had short-lived. This made Alan fear even more about forming any future relationships.
When Alan learned that his company had a subscription to YourDOST, he decided to try it and booked a session.
“In my first session, I realised therapy is a place where we can express ourselves freely. My therapist was great and acknowledged that I have a lot on my plate and suggested that I organise and prioritise one thing at a time as I can’t do everything at the same time.”
After his relationship ended, Alan explained that he didn’t realise he needed therapy but started imagining worst-case scenarios, like he would never be able to marry someone in his head.
Eventually, working all of his negative thoughts in his head with therapy, he started to de-clutter his mind. He also opened up about the issues he had relating to his sexual wellness.
“Sharing everything with someone who listens actively gave me a lot of relief, and being in a non-judgemental environment felt good.”
Alan’s counselor also suggested keeping a thought journal and practising gratitude to connect with his mind. He was also advised to meditate to calm down.
Throughout all the sessions, Alan adds that he felt he had to act for his life rather than repeatedly think about the situation.
As he follows up on the guidance he received in therapy, Alan thanks his counselor for being attentive and giving him the time to proceed at his own pace.
Alan rates himself 3 out of 5 and tries every day to upscale, to be slightly better than the previous day. We wish him all the best for the path he seeks to follow and hope he gets where he wants to be soon.
Alan’s Warrior tips:
1.“People should be courageous to come forward and share their thoughts.”
2.“When things go wrong, just take action and do the work, and the problem will solve itself.”
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