Dhaanya (name changed), who hails from Maharashtra is a 26-year-old working professional who carved her life by pursuing a Mining degree from IIT Kharagpur. Being an adventurous spirit, she loves to explore new things and doesn’t hesitate to try new things. She enjoys cycling, chess, drawing, listening and exploring new music.
She comes from a family who supports her but also mentioned that she is not entirely close to them and keeps her personal life safe from them by maintaining healthy boundaries.
Her childhood was a roller coaster ride, sailing through the bad and the good experiences in life. In the face of difficulties, families stay strong and support each other, helping to overcome the hurdles that come their way. She has been vocal and opinionated about her feelings and emotions.
Dhaanya’s journey into counseling happened mainly because of her love-hate relationship with anger. The anger develops with petty things and later develops into a big concern.
“In a rage, I could not control my anger and would engage in conversations or activities that would hurt others and jeopardise my relationship with people.”
She expressed how she started noticing how this started affecting her relationship with people and decided to seek help. Dhaanya felt that she had difficulty expressing negative emotions the right way. This resulted in miscommunication and relationship issues. It would take a toll on her head.
She got to know about YourDOST as her college had partnered with YourDOST dedicated to mental health and well-being. She thought of giving it a chance and setting off on a journey of betterment.
“I’m fortunate to have such a facility available to us. Just one click away. It’s a good tool. I appreciate the efforts that YourDOST is putting into mental health.”
With a mix of uncertainty and hope, Dhaanya found Ms. Narmada as her counselor. Since the beginning, her attentive listening and ability to look beyond her words impressed her. Her questioning patterns left a deep impression on her subconscious decisions, helping her gain a better perspective.
For years she had been channelling her negative emotions into anger, allowing it to consume her. Therapy gave her a chance to connect with her inner emotions and she was able to fully understand her.
“Speaking to her helped me have a deep reflection of myself and my ways. She explained everything with examples and I was able to learn about myself better. “
Narmada recommended some valuable techniques for Dhaanya to start her journey towards change.
Though the process came with its share of challenges, she was brave enough to jump over obstacles. She had realised that expressing her emotions through anger might not be the best approach.
“If somebody makes a genuine mistake it would aggravate me especially when they do not understand my POV. However, post-therapy, I learnt ways to express myself better by consciously realising the emotional impact it caused me.”
Her journey with YourDOST has been transformative. Learning about her emotions and gaining control opened new opportunities for her. She feels more than alive, and her anger is in control which is a relief. She looks forward to sailing through the new challenges that life throws at her.
“I’m grateful to have come across such a great listener. Narmada helped me realise that, I’m above my emotions and my thoughts. I’m in charge of my own.”
Dhaanya also expressed that she was able to help her break down her problem by customising techniques according to her personality. She understood her really well and that was helpful.
She rates herself an excellent 4.5 out of 5 in terms of feeling better and wishes to be consistent as a testament to her growth and progress.
Dhaanya’s Warrior Tips:
1.“I would suggest anyone who is going through a difficult time to talk to somebody. Somebody who you can trust to let out all the suppressed emotions.”
2.“Everyone’s problems are unique, and the best person to understand them is the one going through them.”
3.“It’s important to look at life with a simple perspective as people we tend to complicate it unwantedly. ”
