In the realm of dreams and aspirations, Yuvraj (name changed) a vibrant 22-year-old is a B.Tech student in Chemical Engineering from the esteemed institute of IIT Bombay. He is from Sikar Rajasthan. His love for exploring his interests grew deep, allowing him to channel his energy better. He finds solace in activities that let him express his emotions and feelings through the graceful arts.
“I am seasonal with my hobbies and one day I want to dance the other day I want to focus on something else. It is more like a Jack of all trades but master of none.”
Yuvraj was a happy-go-lucky child, always looking for ways to make others laugh and have a good time. He holds good memories of his childhood. He is close to his mom and he expressed that his mom has kept a protected environment for him and moving to college got him homesick.
We, humans, attract like-minded people and vibe with their company to make our lives a little less complicated. We meet numerous people throughout our life span, but we connect with only a few apart from our family members.
One such connection spurred in Yuvraj’s life with a girl he was best friends with for almost 7 years.
Yuvraj mentioned that he found himself entangled in the complexities of a romantic relationship. What began as a promising connection soon took an unforeseen turn as she betrayed his trust.
“I was in a 4-year-long relationship, my then-girlfriend started running away from my presence and wanted to end things and also confessed that she cheated on me. I felt as If I was robbed, it came unexpectedly.”
Yuvraj described that he confronted her and he learned that she wanted to end things with him. It was all still like a movie for him to go through and understand what just happened.
“I was numb when she broke up. She blocked me and said that she doesn’t like me anymore and that she cheated on me.”
He said he was always confused about how somebody like her did what she did and was after answers. He approached the counselor. He then took sessions and understood the importance of moving and how to do it correctly.
“I still remember how it felt when she left. It haunted me for quite some time. It affected my concentration and reflected on my studies as well.”
Yuvraj was impacted deeply after this incident. He was emotionally broke and kept pondering upon one question, “Why did she cheat and do this to me?”. He was stuck in a loop of thoughts which caused a ripple effect that disrupted hIs studies and concentration.
Yuvraj was fortunate that his institute partnered with YourDOST to help people who are struggling with their lives and need someone to talk to.
“I’m thankful to my college for providing such service with the help of YourDOST to all who are associated with it. Special thanks to my counselor Ms. Kansha.”
Yuvraj explained that his ex kept saying that she deserved somebody better and that he was very confused. He wanted to understand what his next step of action should be when he sought counseling.
In the first session of counseling, he connected with Ms Kansha to share all his problems. She helped him get over all the feelings that he was going through. She insisted he enjoy and do things that he likes to do. To put his mind at rest, Yuvraj decided to devote his time and follow the therapeutic techniques she suggested.
Kansha suggested some techniques to follow to overcome what he was going through. She recommended journaling, venting out, and writing a letter to his ex to express his feelings. These
helped him heal.
Yuvraj articulated that his expert sent him a questionnaire, articles and videos to utilise as resources to help him through his bad days and he devoted time to do it.
He followed these suggestions and brought them into his daily routine. He feels blessed to have met such a counselor. He emphasised how he was happy that he had someone who listened to him so patiently.
“My counselor was open to questions, she let me rant and would always be there for me. She has always been welcoming to my thoughts, approachable as a person and devoted to working with me and helping me through this situation.”
Having a therapy session and venting out always made him feel better. Yuvraj also elucidated that he subconsciously knew the answers to his questions. However, it took him time to process as everything around him started happening fast and he started flooding focus.
Yuvraj felt great post-therapy sessions and was motivated to a greater extent. He noticed the changes within himself and embraced them with confidence. With each passing day, Yuvraj felt himself evolving, his spirit blossoming like a vibrant flower in full bloom.
“I could sense that I had moved on from what had happened in the past. I’m focused more on what my future holds. I’m looking forward to shaping it accordingly.”
Yuraj is brave and surrounded by good people who look after him. He is happy with the transition that he has been through. With all the bumpy rides, he is finally on the right path. He mentions how he suggested others seek expert help and consult YourDOST whenever they can.
Yuvraj rates himself an excellent 3.5 out of 5 in terms of getting better. He is glad that he took the bold step to consult the experts. He has never looked back since then.
Yuvraj’s Warrior Tips:
1.“Try to share your feelings with someone about everything going around with you.”
2.“Prioritise your mental health above all. Don’t ever compromise with it. It is the most important one.”
3.“Believe in the journey, and be patient enough to wait for the good days. You’ll get through it eventually.”
