So I am a 22 yr old college student, who does not date much because I usually don't like anyone that much. After quite a while, I met this girl and we really hit off. I though this was someone I would like to know better.
We met a few times, at no point it felt that any of us had to drag the conversation, it just used to fit for us.
We were explicit with our liking for each other.
Then quite suddenly, she told me that she has feelings for some other guy, with whom things are very complicated as he can't be in relationship because of his ex. She cut contact with him and it was affecting her in a bad way.
Honestly, I was disheartened by this point, we had been talking for a couple months, everyday, not just like "friends". She was leading me on believing something else and she did not care to mention this before.
I felt bad about what she was going through, I tried to help with utmost effort to remain unbiased.
She let me know about how marvelous of a guy I am for not making it complex and how much she likes me and enjoys my company but she was not ready for something serious.
No way anyone could say that she wanted it to be just casual via the conversations we had before this incident. I was seriously pissed that why she did not clear it with me before but I understood her situation, so I remained cool.
I tried to remain friends but things just changed, it was like she only talked when she needed some help. Our conversations started to dwindle.
I consoled her in bad times and understood that it was her anger when she used to lash out but when I burst out once, she did not seem to care. Though I later apologized.
I am just boggled about how her behavior changed.
It;s like the unavailability of the other guy was the reason that she used to talk to me and now that she was feeling all better, she just tossed me aside.
She does not ping me anymore, neither do I.
I understand she needs her space and that is her right, time and space does wonders for a person but it's like it's over for her now.
Should I just hang back, delete the no.? Or that would make me seem pity.
Or should I just keep no contact?
Not really sure what to do.
Aah, this seems so childish.
It's just that I made a connection after such a long time that I can't seem to deal that someone used me to make them feel better.
I would love if anyone has any advice regarding it.