I can't even put to words how much I can relate to this problem. After trying to shut your emotions, giving up finding a solution and breaking down after shouting and blaming them, shame is all I get. Because whatever you do, you're not allowed to voice your emotions. That's simply it for them. I don't know if blaming them is going to help me r not. So I try so hard to be positive and have faith that things will too change for good. But it keeps on happening and the more I try to suppress my emotions, the more rage I feel. And then sadness, because ultimately, either way, I'll end up losing and hurting them. Why does it have to be like this, why can't they simply understand? I think it's an altogether waste of energy, isn't it? After years and years of trying to figure this out, I realised one thing. No one is strong enough to get hurt so much, so often. It can be forgotten as a normal problem in every home if it doesn't; happen every day, every minute. With every breath, you end feeling heaviness and helplessness. So much, it slowly changes to disgust and thus your own baggage. So no, it is not a problem that happens in every home. If you think so, then probably you're dealing with much less of a problem. Not the real toxicity. Other toxic people we can do cut out from our lives, how do we cut off our own toxic parents?