Hello, when someone wants to realise their own worth it all starts with self love, when love yourself you’ll realise your worth it all goes hand in hand.
There’s a lot of things that can contribute to having low self esteem one of them for you is attracting the wrong guys who belittle you in a way. It’s all a journey of life we sometimes find ourselves in company of people are who aren’t for us, people who don’t share the same values as us and that’s normal there’s nothing wrong with that. One thing you need to understand is when you’ve came into contract with these types of people they are the ones who are bringing you down and that’s got nothing to do with anything on your part, they don’t appreciate you for who you are. When you find someone who appreciates you and realises your worth you’ll know it straight away, that’s not to say you may not have issues with the person because everyone makes mistakes but if the persons hearts in the right place anything can happen and things will work out.
I know you said previous therapy has led you to believe that it’s all down to ones image, I’m going to assume you mean looks and appearance correct me if I’m wrong ? But I’d like to disagree with that, we all meet people who aren’t meant for us but that doesn’t mean you’re attracting the wrong type maybe because of the way you look or behave, you’ve just been unfortunate to have dealings with these people.
When it comes to wanting to improve self care/self love you need to do it for yourself and not anyone else, not to attract better. It’s easy to want to improve yourself because you want others to notice but you need to be doing it for your own mental peace because once you’ve realised your own worth and you love yourself when these types of guys come and go in your life you know you’re not the issue it’s them and you won’t start doubting yourself if you get me.
So before pleasing other people be content with in yourself and the start of that is knowing that you’re good enough and that your perfect no matter what people may say you’ve just got to believe in yourself.
I hope I’ve been of some help and I hope everything works out for you.