Let me tell you my story. When I was 21, my boyfriend was 27. He was a way more matured, and I was too kiddish. He was ahead of me, and used to handle everything so smoothly when I still had the symptoms of PMS in my behavior. At some point, I had this frustration that we aren't bf-gf types, but papa-beti types. With time, these emotions started exploding in my behavior though I do not want to express. I was too young to handle the relationship, and we parted our ways. Life moved on with time. I became stronger, tougher and more independent.
Then I got married to papa's choice. Same religion, same caste, same age group... matching income, matching standards, matching career... In no less than one week, I realized that, he is pampered and cared a lot as he is the youngest with two elder sisters. And with all elders in the family, he is used to mama-beta type life. Still I couldn't get this bf-gf frequency match.
The reality is... We never can find someone exactly compatible and comfortable. Your guy is so very committed to you. That's what matters. All these rest issues will fade into oblivion once you start getting along with each other. By this, I don't belittle your concerns. I ask you to find alternatives. Get some good mentors and senior friends in your life. Stay connected to elderly members in your family. Sort it out! Adjust a little... Lots of happiness ahead, dear! God bless you.