My husband and I have been happily married for 10years. It was a love marriage. My husband, by nature, is an extremely understanding, emotionally very strong, broadminded and mature person. He is a very good friend and someone who readily helps others. I am more impulsive, naive, emotional and juvenile. Few months back, my husband shared with me that few of his female colleagues have been showing keen interest in him. Notice, it is more than 1 woman. They are also married but are expecting a romantic relationship with him. He is extremely broad-minded. He has probably flirted around with them too, but harmless and casual. But they want to take it forward. His justification is that he cannot stop others from liking him. This has been going on for more than 2 years and he shared this with me only now. Though I knew that he has had women stalking him before marriage also, and that somehow he attracts a female fan following, it came as a shock to me that even after 10years of marriage, such things are repeating, and he had chosen to keep it away from me for so long. He has assured me SEVERAL TIMES that he has not taken it forward with any of them and has made it very clear to them that he is happily married and is not interested in extra-marital affairs. He chose to tell me now as the frequency of msgs had increased and that he did not want me to misunderstand or know in any other way. And since they are his work colleagues, he cannot block their numbers due to work commitments. I know that my husband will not cheat on me. He could have continued to hide and I wouldn't even have known, as I am extremely stupid at such issues. I appreciate his honesty and all his efforts to ensure that I should not hurt myself emotionally. He calls these passing clouds and that it shall pass. But my problem is that these clouds keep coming back. If not this, another. I need closure and it is not happening. I am trying my best to coupe, accept and move on. I have also many times become over-emotional and blown the situations out of proportion and made it difficult for him. This has been happening over last 4 months. Though I feel back to normal, small things trigger my thoughts and i create stories and hurt myself over and over again. I am also jeopardising my marriage and relationship with my husband in the bargain. I do not want to loose him and he is genuinely an extremely good person. He is also going through enough stress and I am adding to it. The only few things that are ticking me off are that, he has blocked my access to his phone after one of the outbursts of mine, where I completely crossed limits (as per him, I encroached into his private space). He continues to receive msgs from women but he says that does not encourage it, and that he knows how to maintain his limits. He has stopped sharing any details regarding this issue with me now, as I am not able to handle myself and his situation. However, the fact remains that he is hiding and I am not able to bear this. After 10years of being in a trustful, happy marriage, I feel cheated and like I am losing trust in the only man that I never want to lose in my life. I want to rebuild my trust in him, because the fact remains that he did not let things go out of hand. He has maintained his dignity and maturity, but I am not able to reciprocate. I want to stop doubting him, spying on him and I want to have the same friendship that we shared upto 6 months back. I do not want secrets among us. I want to become his best friend once again. I want him to have the freedom to share his life with me, which I am making more difficult for him by accusing him many times of things which are not true. Many things are my own imagination, though there is still some instance to ignite it for me. I know it must have taken him courage to share something uncomfortable, but I lost his faith in me, before he even completed telling everything. Now he shares nothing of his personal life. I want to save my marriage and my sanity. Please help.