I'm sorry to hear about the loss that you have had. No matter how hard we try to empathize, we might not be able to understand the pain that you are going through. The loss of your dear one and added to which the apprehensions around you with regard to the financial support, your social support system and life ahead would certainly be tough upon you.
May be it might be equally challenging for you now on one hand to deal with the family situation and building up a system of support(family), on the other hand to start making meaning of life itself. One thing that you may try to realize slowly if possible is that you will certainly face a lot of challenges and dire situations. If possible you need to try and tell yourself that these challenges are natural and its ok to feel bad and falter at times. May be this can be a start to give yourselves a lot more of acceptance and you will not be harsh with yourself.
Coming to the immediate pragmatic decision, may be you know the scene better as to where to start and what to do?, whether to work or whether to meet new people? and further such decisions. But What we can try doing differently here is the not clouding our thought process. Trust me when I say this.... There are high chances that are so many negative thoughts and prejudices that we will go on to to take without even testing or trying them out.
This can be possible to be reversed, but in slow steps. May be you don't have to overdo things but take it slow and steady and as the time progress things will unfold to you if you have have the right attitude - "that is calmness with self."
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