I would have really loved to help you but your problem statement is really not a problem at all.
I believe you that you have not given a honest try to weigh out the options you have in hand. I don't understand what are the concequences if you opt different than your family views. I think it's your assumptions based on your past experience which are not anywhere related to marriage and you have not shared your thoughts.
I believe you should first have a clear thought about your partner and then other things can be discussed.
If you need help to make up your mind I can help.