Based on what you have shared, I am wondering what is your generic idea of a boyfriend or the qualities that a boyfriend should have? Do you feel in a relation a boy has to take lead always? Why not try letting him know what you expect from him and how you wish him to contribute in this relationship. At the same time you can ask him how he would like you to be and things he would like you to do for him. Trying to know each other's preferences and working on that, putting effort to do those for them is something that makes a relation mutual and not like one person is trying to control it.