I am 25 years old and my boyfriend is also 25 years old. We work in the same company and we love each other for 3 years. He has got his parents' acceptance for our marriage. I told my parents about our love 2 years back. They do all sort of emotional blackmailing. They say "If you want him, go out of this family and never come back. We will kill him and end our lives". I love them too. But I can't marry anyone else for their wish. Its like suicide for me, if I do that. They don't let me anywhere outside, seized my mobile phone and stopped my outside contacts completely. Its like house-arrest. My boyfriend tried to speak to them. But they are not ready to listen. My mom has met him twice only thing she told him is leave my daughter u don't belong to our community.They love me, but only if I listen to whatever they say. All my life, I never had anything I wished for. They bought me everything and did everything a parent must do, but without taking my wish as a major factor. I am totally depressed. I want them to understand me. My sister is engaged to her boyfriend whose of my community. They have no problem with my sister's choice. She too is against this case of caste,community,society etc. I do work from home now. That's why I am able to mail you now. If somebody can do something to make them realize my pain, I will have a life, worth living for. We live in Bangalore. Both my parents are educated and working. I was forced to meet more than six guys and I ended up cancelling It . I directly tell the guy that I love someone else.But now my parents have found that Im cancelling it.They have told me that they will never accept my boyfriend so it's better to move on and if I inform any guy who comes to meet me about my boyfriend they will commit suicide. It creates a lot of mental pressure inside me. I am afraid sometimes, angry sometimes, and I can't believe, I sometimes feel hatred against them. Please help me with it.
I really have a strong feeling of dying rather than live here. But, my boyfriend will be in the worst case depression, if I do something like that. That's the only reason, I am still living. I don't have anyone to speak to. I feel so lonely. I am always crying and nothing makes me smile.
I am looking forward to someone, who can lift off this burden from my heart.
Please help me to change my parents. I tried to speak about my feelings. But they are not ready to listen. I have been waiting for the past two years for a positive response . How can I change their view?