Getting Divorce from the childhood love

[needcounciling]

I loved a girl since I was 10 years old or so. I never realized when my crush matured to love.
I am 27 now. Got married to her this year but it was arranged by my parents. She never knew I used to like her because I never talked to her in school but came in touch via social media. She and her family never know that too. I never thought of no one but her for 15+years. Thought of telling her and surprising her nearly after 2 months of our marriage. After telling that I have loved her for 15 years she cried and told me she doesn't love me. She was forced to marry me because of family pressure and loves someone else. The guy is her college mate.
I am devastated. No matter how much did I try to convince and give her chance she wants divorce. Her parents and my parents tried to explain but its not working. She is not living with me anymore.
I can't let her go because she was the first and last person I loved

[sheetal-rajput-1kwux]

Hi

Thank you for writing your query to YD, it takes courage to seek help
I can sense the pain you are going through from your message and this indeed is a difficult phase for you. I can see in your message here that you did your best to make her stay and so both of your parents, but it is not working. I understand whatever happened is very unfortunate But when it comes to Relationship/ marriage, it is a two way street. No matter how hard you try and make efforts , but if the other person is determined in her decision, you can't make it work all by yourself.

Try to communicate with her , how she wants to proceed with this, if possible , you both can go for couple counselling and discuss it there.

You can also connect with experts in the platform, they will help.

Take care
Sheetal Rajput
Expert , YourDOST

[ria-sarkar-gj4ot]

Hey I am Ria, even though I think I am not really someone who can comment on it because you are going through a lot.
I just wanted to say that there is no point on holding on to someone who does not loves you. Even if you make her understand and force her to stay in this still what would be the point of all this?
No one will be able to be happy. She would not be happy because she does not loves and you forced her to stay, please accept it, you cannot for force someone to love the other person and you would not be happy because she is not happy as you love her and her happiness is important to you.

Let her go and be happy. Love yourself and be happy

[Sidds05]

Hey bro. Can u at this stage think of loving some one else?
If ur answer is yes .... then just move on and let the girl move on too.

If ur answer is no.... then the same goes for the girl . Even she cant love some 1 else other than the guy she likes.

It takes time n it hurts a lot. But life goes on .n u find wonderful people as u journey ahead

[needcounciling]

Yeah you're right. Thanks a lot for your response. We had a divorce and I might seek a therapist

[vrutpalpatel]

Hello Brother,
I Can understand, How you are feeling. As, same thing also happened with me but we didn't get married. It is better to let that person go, when one doesn't have true feeling. It will not only made them feel bad but slowly and slowly you will start dying inside. So wait for someone who will love you back as you do, and it doesn't need long relation, Just let love come from both sides. Hope you get better soon.