Father extra-marital affair, Family Detroit.. Feeling helpless

Arhall 2019-10-24 12:49:16 UTC #1

My life is going through rough patch..Not getting solution for lots of problems.. Recently few month back my mother expired..We don't have brother..my elder sisters are married and me living with my younger sister along with my father at our home..But my father started extra-marital affair with a lady after my mother death...His age is 68 year and lady age is 35..Now we stucked in very bad situation..How to stop this relationship..All other relatives are living sepretarely..we are helpless..we can't able to do anything in this matter..I don't know weather my father doing adultery or he married that lady..Now he don't care us only talk to that lady and go her house..we can't go to police we can't go to relatives because doing this we only got badnami nothing more than that. Still we two sisters are unmarried..I don't know why my father doing this rubbish at this age..we got from other source that lady is continuing blackmailing my father and always taking money etc..Now we are scared that if he will marry her our own house also she will capture in which now we are living..
We are helpless.. lady cleverly known that he is old age and we don't have brother or mother and having some properties so she started illegal relationship..
Now is there any Solution for this problem? So we make our father away from that lady.. Please help or atleast Prayer for getting out from bad phase of our life..

tanukaYD 2019-10-29 12:51:22 UTC #2

Hi Arhall,
It seems you are in a very tough situation and things are really not going well. I can imagine that you and your sister must be feeling very much helpless.
However, we cannot give you any definite solution here as there seem to be a lot of aspects to understand before we go ahead looking for a solution. But if you want to discuss it and would like to figure out how to deal with it together, you are always welcome to connect with the Experts on this platform for a session.
Stopping a relation is not in our hand, it's up to the person who is involving in it. We can try discussing with them, try to explain or at least try to understand his reason for this involvement.
Moreover, you can always try to figure out ways how you and your sister can still be independent and secure yourself out of this relationship. That is still in your hand.
Take care of yourselves and feel free to reach out to the Experts on this platform for further guidance.

Regards,
Tanuka

Arhall 2019-10-31 04:38:32 UTC #3

Thanks Ma'am, Yes ending relationship is in hand of person involving..Lady involved because she is poor and taking money and other expensive things from my father..On other hand father doing romance with her..We can't go with relative.. Nothing they will do..

What are other ways so we make ourselves independent and secure from this relationship?

We are in fear if father marry her then we lost our house or will caught in lenthy court case in near future, which we don't want..

brotherRaj86 2019-11-01 08:45:28 UTC #4

Hi friend.. see his feelings.. his nature..his relationship is not in your hand.. if he wants to marry..he will get married.. u cant do anything about that.. and if u r scared about badnaami hogi then wo unki hogi.. aapki ya aapke sister ki nahi hogi. Secondly I feel u and your sister shouget get married before your father gets married. U can only request him to wait till u both get married. Now u saying that lady will capture your house. See those things r not in your hand. U should think ke waisebhi wo aapke father ne hi banaya huwa ghar hai. Toh he has right k wo jise chahe use de. What u can do is..find your life partner.. get married and have your own family. Dont get stucked in this matter where u have nothing in your hand. When we cant do anything just leave and make your own way of living. Dont be dependent on him. U and your sister need to get out of that house for your mental health. Marriage will help u both in terms of finding new house and new family.. basically new life. U cant change your father then just change your family..your life.. let him do what he wants to do and dont think about society. U r not doing anything wrong. This is what I feel.