excellent topic you started.
its human nature to starve for good change always..we always search for something new..we explore the word "WHY" more..
i also spend most of the time in why this happened and why this doesn't.
but in our life 10% things r in our control and 90 % are not..
continuous failure in certain area --> makes us to focus on 90% ignoring that 10%,
while we focusing on "why" somebody comes and kick our ass (shock)... and we serve that person's desire first.
so focus on "WHAT is happening ?" instead of "why its happening ? ", this is taking charge of your own ship. then u will feel u r driving your own vehicle. thanks ...hope you will understand what is said.