Hello. I am here posting to get some perspective and opinions on a huge change in my life, involving how my friend has changed. Apologies for the long post.
To make a long story short, my friend had discovered his girlfriend (now ex) had someone over for a disclosed amount of time. He came home to see another man in the house with his wife and all she told him was "It's not what it looks like". Stressed already from work and life, he made a bad decision and took something that led to a mental breakdown; drug induced psychosis. While he recovered, he described feeling like a child in an adult body. He couldn't believe anything that was said to him by everyone. He heard of things that he felt he never remembered happening.
He began to change as he put the pieces back together. He became more assertive, defending himself from anything mentioned about him, even if it's a joking mentioned and he became (from my point of view) obsessed with being factual, unintentionally judgmental of others for their ways, and headstrong in doing things his way, no matter what. He'll defend his actions with pointing out loop holes or technicalities.
I feel with how he's become assertive, he's lost being considerate. I've talked about this with him and he's mentioned not wanting to be that door mat again. All it got him was what transpired. But what I'm unable to comprehend how can some people find this assertive quality admirable? How can some people not see what I see in that some choices of his words or actions give off this superiority complex?
What is your opinion and experience with such people. Do you get along with them or do you leave them be and let them be with those who want to be around such people?
This friend is moving and towards more people who seem to share his views on being assertive and doing what they want when they want. I've made my piece that this long childhood friendship is over. But I am curious as to what your opinion is.