Hi Guys i need some help in terms of my best friend.
So I know her now for since 6 years. we were in the same degree college so basically from same career and field.
Over the past 3 years,that is after we graduated we became more close as we reside close by, so we met often and we are close to each other in terms of sharing and caring.
But since past one year her behavior has changed drastically. As in we both left our job to start our own venture.
I even got a project and partnered her so that we can work and things can go good on work front as we both wanted to do something together. But because of her laziness and carelessness she quit the work mid way and i handled the project till my handover. I'm sure she even regrets doing so.
And now we work individually, like she has a partner and opened a firm with one of her ex colleague. ( initially i had rejected because we were to invest some funds as my financial condition was not great, unlike her).
so she and her partner has been struggling in setting up the business and me on the other front i resumed working as i felt i'm still young and i dint get that much project as freelancer so i planned to learn more along with few small projects that i got i did.
But I Have observed something that when ever i talk about my work she doesn't really react in a good way, as if she in competition with me, when she does something great i always support her and motivate.
But when i talk about my work i always see enviousness in her. which i feel bad, like i have never seen any support from her when i do something.
for eg she is free most of time and always hangs out with her bf and other friends, but coincidentally whenever she msgs me i'm stuck with work and she tells me that i'm showing tantrums and always giving some reasons but the truth is i'm genuinely stuck with some or the other imp work which cannot be canceled.
when the same applies to her, when she is busy and she tells me arrogantly that she cant meet because of commitments, i always cooperate with her and understand.
she keeps insisting me that we should work together and again give it a try, but my mom says its better to not work with your friends as it spoils the relationship and i believe her. I guess if it was someone else i would have, but with her i don't want to spoil my relationship as she is already very aggressive and possessive.
I don't know how to handle her behaviour. The other girls in my group have lost hopes from her and are tired making her realise and understand how she behaves with ppl.
Her behavior with boyfriend is also very bad. and she knows about it but she cant change or rather improve herself.
Honestly it gets toxic for me sometimes especially when i'm not in the right state of mind.
Her word hurts me to the core.
But i have accepted her the way she is but don't know for how long i can tolerate her.
I'm currently avoiding her and meeting only when necessary as i'm even focusing on my work as these are he peak tears of my career.
Any suggestion regarding this issue will be very helpful. TIA