{"id":9071,"date":"2016-09-03T19:02:03","date_gmt":"2016-09-03T13:32:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=9071"},"modified":"2016-09-03T19:02:03","modified_gmt":"2016-09-03T13:32:03","slug":"an-open-letter-to-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2016\/09\/an-open-letter-to-parents.html","title":{"rendered":"An Open Letter To Parents From A Daughter In Her 20s"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Mom & Dad,<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s me, your daughter.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

I love you both, and that\u2019s something I can never hide. I\u2019m glad to be your daughter. I must have been blessed to have parents like you, who let me live despite being a daughter. <\/span><\/p>\n

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I know several girls are still being killed; their crime being \u2013 they are girls. I\u2019m not among them and I can only be thankful to you both.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I know that bringing me up has been anything but easy for you both. There has always been somebody in the family reminding you that I am your daughter (as if you would forget!) who has to get married. I am thankful to you both that none of their reminders affected you until now. I am in my 20s, so what has changed now? I can see the worry you think you don\u2019t express. I have listened to those secret talks you have when you think I\u2019m not around.<\/span><\/p>\n

You both have always been more worried about me than Bhai. I have had more rules to follow and still do. My friends have had to give a thorough test before you both approved of them. I didn\u2019t like it but I thought you were protecting me. But now such protection curtails me from my individuality.\u00a0<\/span>You both have taught me well. I have been educated unlike so many girls from the village of your childhood. Why then can\u2019t you believe in me?<\/p>\n

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You taught me to raise my voice against the wrong. Now when I question you why, why do we end up in a fight? Why can\u2019t I cry in front of Dad when I get menstrual cramps? Why can\u2019t I discuss about the boy friends I have had? Why has my marriage become a reason of your worry \u2013 hadn\u2019t you told me marriage is a new phase of happiness?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

You know I love to travel, but I can\u2019t go around the world until I have a husband. What if he doesn\u2019t like to travel? Love marriage has a stigma in our society and you believe this society more than me. You cannot trust my friends even those from childhood, how then will I trust a stranger of your choice? I am not ready to marry now. My age doesn\u2019t decide my date of marriage, I wish you could understand this.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I am privileged to have you as my parents but now let\u2019s talk about love, boyfriends, drinking and sex. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I need to feel true freedom at home which has been caved in the name of protection till now. Don\u2019t stop me even if I were to fall because I\u2019ll learn to get up and walk. I\u2019m in my 20s. At least now believe that I can differentiate between wrong and right. It’s time that you both begin to trust my choice.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know I have been the reason for your worry. Someday, I hope I will be the reason for your pride. You both have been my first teachers and I respect you the most. I will owe you both for everything you have done for me. But don\u2019t make this look like a burden and let me free. I want us to be a family who is like friends. I have grown up to be a woman with an understanding of her own, I hope this doesn\u2019t make me the bad one anymore. I want you both to know that your daughter is strong and independent.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Loving,<\/strong><\/p>\n

Daughter<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let your daughters breath, let them have what they equally deserve – Freedom! You can get Parenting Advice<\/a> from the experts at YourDOST.<\/strong><\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dear Mom & Dad, It\u2019s me, your daughter. I love you both, and that\u2019s something I can never hide. I\u2019m glad to be your daughter. I must have been blessed to have parents like you, who let me live despite being a daughter. I know several girls are still being killed; their crime being \u2013 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[39,92],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9071","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love-relationship","category-parental-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9071","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9071"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9071\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9071"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9071"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9071"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}