{"id":8873,"date":"2016-08-21T18:17:26","date_gmt":"2016-08-21T12:47:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=8873"},"modified":"2025-10-06T15:56:23","modified_gmt":"2025-10-06T10:26:23","slug":"wife-earns-more-masculanity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2016\/08\/wife-earns-more-masculanity.html","title":{"rendered":"Will you be okay if your wife earned more than you?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Okay. Some straight talk &#8211; would you be okay with your wife earning more than you? I asked this question on social media recently and was received with highly positive messages about how men would be completely fine with it.<\/p>\n<p><iframe style=\"border: none; overflow: hidden;\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FRaghu25289%2Fposts%2F1294941783858756&amp;width=500\" width=\"500\" height=\"161\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Almost every response was positive.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183002\/Aman.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8875\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8875\" src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183002\/Aman.png\" alt=\"Aman\" width=\"497\" height=\"222\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183101\/Reuben.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8876\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8876 lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183101\/Reuben.png\" alt=\"Reuben\" width=\"502\" height=\"50\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 502px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 502\/50;\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183427\/Shroff.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8877\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8877 lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183427\/Shroff.png\" alt=\"Shroff\" width=\"500\" height=\"62\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 500px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 500\/62;\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Some even said that it was their reality<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183524\/Raveesh.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8878\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8878 lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183524\/Raveesh.png\" alt=\"Raveesh\" width=\"505\" height=\"56\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 505px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 505\/56;\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183606\/Zishaan.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8879\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8879 lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183606\/Zishaan.png\" alt=\"Zishaan\" width=\"499\" height=\"50\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 499px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 499\/50;\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Some suggested that women wouldn\u2019t be okay with dating men who earn lesser than them<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183845\/Payal.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8881\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8881 lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183845\/Payal.png\" alt=\"Payal\" width=\"508\" height=\"92\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 508px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 508\/92;\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>And then there were then there were the cynics \u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183705\/Kunal.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8880\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8880 lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19183705\/Kunal.png\" alt=\"Kunal\" width=\"505\" height=\"50\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 505px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 505\/50;\" \/><\/a>But one particular comment caught my attention<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19184015\/Sunil.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8882\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8882 lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/19184015\/Sunil.png\" alt=\"Sunil\" width=\"499\" height=\"161\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 499px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 499\/161;\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>This man\u2019s colleague\u2019s thought it was such a shame to be earning lesser than his wife. And he is not the only one. If one thing is for certain, it is that masculinity is extremely fragile. Take a look at these industrial brands which openly pander to masculinity to make more men buy their products &#8211;<\/p>\n<p><strong> In food &#8211;<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">WHY DO U NEED TO GENDER BREAKFAST THO <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/McDonalds\">@McDonalds<\/a> SMH MASCULINITY IS SO FRAGILE <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/tF7M55s24N\">pic.twitter.com\/tF7M55s24N<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 not terrible?? (@empratts) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/empratts\/status\/597398691570388993\">May 10, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Masculinity ? is ? so ? fragile ? <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/pmDBlfiVNS\">pic.twitter.com\/pmDBlfiVNS<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Apollo (@thisisapollo) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/thisisapollo\/status\/520615513517748224\">October 10, 2014<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Apparently, masculinity is a fragile, dainty and delicate flower which must be coddled at all costs. <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/b6qQc9zKJV\">pic.twitter.com\/b6qQc9zKJV<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Skyen (@TBSkyen) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/TBSkyen\/status\/532148568837341184\">November 11, 2014<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">The Fragile Masculinity Guide to Throwing a Dinner Party <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/MSpxaGoka3\">pic.twitter.com\/MSpxaGoka3<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Sydney Hartle (@Sydney_Hartle) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/Sydney_Hartle\/status\/598230791886241793\">May 12, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p><strong>In cosmetics &#8211;<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Traditional masculinity seems&#8230; fragile <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/yGmwdWmkw7\">pic.twitter.com\/yGmwdWmkw7<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Belle Jar (@BelleJarTeam) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/BelleJarTeam\/status\/594220191254519809\">May 1, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">just in case your masculinity is so fragile that you have to smell like REALLY RIPPED ABS <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/Eai9gHoZ2N\">pic.twitter.com\/Eai9gHoZ2N<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 kale ? (@osnapitzkaley) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/osnapitzkaley\/status\/597961759954235392\">May 12, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p><strong>In alcohol &#8211;<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 658px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-version=\"7\">\n<div style=\"padding: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background: #F8F8F8; line-height: 0; margin-top: 40px; padding: 50% 0; text-align: center; width: 100%;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/2KA_i0oGNW\/\" target=\"_blank\">The weekend Warrior Starter Pack \u00a0#rose #ros\u00e9 #bros\u00e9 #awesomesauce #poundit #getsome #thunderdome #hardcorefermenters #internwine<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A photo posted by Artur Podniesi?ski (@artofpictures) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2015-05-01T22:43:23+00:00\">May 1, 2015 at 3:43pm PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\" async=\"\" defer=\"defer\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">You guys, this is a thing that exists: <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/FzEv2mJNCS\">pic.twitter.com\/FzEv2mJNCS<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 e. (@EisforEricka) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/EisforEricka\/status\/485956319435034624\">July 7, 2014<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p><strong>In toilet paper?!!<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 658px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-version=\"7\">\n<div style=\"padding: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background: #F8F8F8; line-height: 0; margin-top: 40px; padding: 50% 0; text-align: center; width: 100%;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/2oo5YtOMFL\/\" target=\"_blank\">Why Wouldn&#8217;t Ya? #dudewipes<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A photo posted by DUDE (@dudewipes) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2015-05-13T20:09:17+00:00\">May 13, 2015 at 1:09pm PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\" async=\"\" defer=\"defer\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p><strong>In tins?!?!?!<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Today in Masculinity Is So Fragile <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/KGY7iGoo1S\">pic.twitter.com\/KGY7iGoo1S<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Apollo (@thisisapollo) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/thisisapollo\/status\/525926091110617089\">October 25, 2014<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" async=\"\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>You get the point, right? Marketers exploit a man\u2019s need for being masculine and there\u2019s research backed evidence to prove that this need is real. A study from the Fairleigh Dickinson University showed how gender related questions threatening masculinity, showed that men were less likely to vote for Hillary Clinton, and more likely to vote for Donald Trump. Here\u2019s an excerpt from the report &#8211;<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>\u201cMerely asking the question about spousal income led to enormous shifts in men\u2019s preferences in the upcoming presidential election. Men who weren\u2019t asked about spousal income until late in the survey preferred Hillary Clinton over Donald Trump in a hypothetical general election matchup by a 16-point margin; men who were asked about spousal income only a few questions before being asked about the Clinton-Trump matchup preferred Trump by an eight-point margin \u2014 a 24-point shift in preferences. The conclusion that this is about gender is reinforced by the fact that the spousal income question had no effect at all on a matchup between Trump and Bernie Sanders. Men who had been primed to think about a threat to their masculinity preferred Sanders by four points; unprimed men, by three.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Of course, going by the responses that I got on my status, I\u2019m guessing quite a few people are okay with their wives earning more than them. Maybe the definition of masculinity will change over time. Today, being a feminist, being accepting of the LGBT community and standing for equal rights might be considered more manly than being \u201cmasculine\u201d in the conventional sense. But it will be a long time, before this becomes the norm.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>The flipside to masculinity is that there\u2019s undue expectation on men. And it\u2019s okay to feel like that. Remember, you\u2019ll always have someone to talk to at YourDost.com.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Okay. Some straight talk &#8211; would you be okay with your wife earning more than you? I asked this question on social media recently and was received with highly positive messages about how men would be completely fine with it. Almost every response was positive. 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