{"id":623,"date":"2015-04-15T10:11:00","date_gmt":"2015-04-15T10:11:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ydblog.yourdost.com\/index.php\/2015\/04\/15\/anger-managementpromoting-personal-and-professional-growth\/"},"modified":"2015-11-14T13:09:11","modified_gmt":"2015-11-14T07:39:11","slug":"anger-managementpromoting-personal-and-professional-growth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2015\/04\/anger-managementpromoting-personal-and-professional-growth.html","title":{"rendered":"Anger Management: Promoting Personal And Professional Growth"},"content":{"rendered":"<div dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;\" href=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-ISTVp2sBN6o\/VfJ9n6P9T-I\/AAAAAAAAAgI\/BdvGsuwZm8A\/s1600\/angry_Anger.png\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-ISTVp2sBN6o\/VfJ9n6P9T-I\/AAAAAAAAAgI\/BdvGsuwZm8A\/s640\/angry_Anger.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"434\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Are you an angry person?<\/b> Well, we all are angry and at the very same continuum but the expression of it is of different intensities and ways. Question is why do people feel angry? People get angry all the time for various reasons around them. We cannot define all the reasons in a small blog. However, I feel that before we decide to deal with <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.yourdost.com\/2015\/09\/control-your-anger-before-it-controls.html\" target=\"_blank\">anger<\/a>, we better have an idea with what are we dealing with, isn\u2019t that right?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Anger is<\/b> an emotion and it is not always negative, if we use it constructively. <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.yourdost.com\/2015\/08\/anger-hide-and-seek-of-true-feelings.html\" target=\"_blank\">Anger<\/a> is also an indicator that something going on is unacceptable &#8211; example anger when certain politician has not fulfilled his promises, children are not obedient enough, or if we don\u2019t accomplish a task that we took up, or if we see people not performing their duties and that is hampering your set target.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>What can Anger do to us?<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding: 0px 0px 0px 30px;\">\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Increase in blood pressure<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Irritability<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Gastrointestinal issues<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Early death, because a person who is always or frequently angry, harms himself more than others do to them and vice-versa<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Render our rational mind paralyzed. An overwhelming anger is not only toxic to our working efficiency but also it is toxic to your health.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Anger can be right too\u2026<\/b><\/span><\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Aristotle has rightly talked about the rights in Anger. Oh Yes, <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.yourdost.com\/2015\/08\/the-positive-side-of-anger.html\" target=\"_blank\">anger<\/a> can be right but only in the following conditions:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding: 0px 0px 0px 30px; text-align: left;\">\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">When we have to maintain the demeanor and discipline of the organization or work\/ work schedule to meet a desired target. This implies <b>display of non-consensus<\/b> with the right person.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Justified intensity of our expression<\/b>. An extreme expression of anger is wrong because by now we have not only revealed that we are incapable of handling ourselves but also we have given people some pointers to judge us.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Expressing anger at the right moment and in right way<\/b>, when it\u2019s yielding. Timing is very important. We cannot get angry and blame people, for what has happened 10 years back.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Here is a what we need to do when the hulk inside you decides to smash..<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding: 0px 0px 0px 30px; text-align: left;\">\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Ask yourself why you are angry?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Let ego take a back seat<\/b> &#8211; Maybe the issue is not a big deal. However, your lurking inner need might be at stake. Sometimes, we are angry with someone because they have hurt our big ego, any mistake they commit even if really small will bring out unjust reaction from us. <\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">If anger is justified, express it <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.yourdost.com\/2015\/05\/is-saying-no-difficult-for-you-are-you.html\" target=\"_blank\">assertively<\/a> or else just disrupt the angry thought pattern by listening to music, dancing, painting, reading, humor, etc. Basically, use creative and stimulating things. Meditate or just reflect upon yourself.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Put yourself in the other person\u2019s shoe. What would you do, how would you manage and react, if you were in the other person\u2019s place? Question yourself about these. The key is in developing some empathy, tolerance and patience. Don\u2019t you wish to be dealt the same way?<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">When an incident has already occurred, try to figure out why anger outburst occurred from both the sides? Be the bigger person to say a sorry and resolve, when you have actually played a hurtful roll in the whole situation, even if it is by a small fraction.Try to analyze how frequently, why, with whom, and what many thing angry you. <\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b>Do&#8217;s and Don&#8217;ts<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding: 0px 0px 0px 30px; text-align: left;\">\n<li><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Avoid Alcohol and Smoking<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Don\u2019t create an army of people, for and against<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Don\u2019t suppress an unresolved issue; rather you should talk it out constructively.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style: outside none disc; margin-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\">Do surround yourself with positive minds. <\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;\"><b style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent; color: black; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">With emotions overwhelming riding and draining our brains, our perception of reality may be falsified. We are as angry as we feel and the way we perceive the situation. For instance, if you perceive your neighbor to be a bad person, anything, even if useful, coming from their mouth would always be offensive to you.<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you an angry person? Well, we all are angry and at the very same continuum but the expression of it is of different intensities and ways. Question is why do people feel angry? People get angry all the time for various reasons around them. We cannot define all the reasons in a small blog. 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