{"id":617,"date":"2015-05-12T10:27:00","date_gmt":"2015-05-12T10:27:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ydblog.yourdost.com\/index.php\/2015\/05\/12\/is-saying-no-difficult-for-you-are-you-saying-yes-when-you-wanna-say-no-be-assertive-its-healthy\/"},"modified":"2016-05-28T14:11:44","modified_gmt":"2016-05-28T08:41:44","slug":"is-saying-no-difficult-for-you-are-you-saying-yes-when-you-wanna-say-no-be-assertive-its-healthy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2015\/05\/is-saying-no-difficult-for-you-are-you-saying-yes-when-you-wanna-say-no-be-assertive-its-healthy.html","title":{"rendered":"9 Proven Tips to Be More Assertive in Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

“My dad has high expectations from me, but my interests are different. I just cannot hurt him and at the same time, I feel suffocated. I get so angry the moment I see my room in a mess as I enter, my room-mate has no aesthetic sense. We often fight over this issue but nothing changes.”<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cIt is so humiliating when this girl tries to put me down and makes fun of me in front of others. It is taking away my peace of mind, I don’t know how to deal with her as she is so popular at\u00a0the campus.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

“I have been trying to ask this girl out for a date since very long but I don\u2019t know why I could never succeed.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

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Most of us can easily relate to one or more of the above statements. All such inter-personal difficulties can be handled with assertiveness in behavior and communication. Communication is the exchange of ideas, concepts or experiences.<\/p>\n

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Most interpersonal problems arise due to \u00a0ineffective communication. Two most important aspects of communication are to listen (to the content and the feelings) and to express effectively. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

We often tend to be non-assertive due to maladaptive conditioning and suppressing one\u2019s needs and feelings can be disastrous to one\u2019s mental health.<\/p>\n

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Assertiveness is a skill, whereby one can effectively and tactfully express one\u2019s feelings, preferences, opinions, and needs, without hurting or violating rights of others. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Assertiveness involves the following behaviors:<\/p>\n