{"id":526,"date":"2015-09-03T07:46:00","date_gmt":"2015-09-03T07:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ydblog.yourdost.com\/index.php\/2015\/09\/03\/i-am-an-introvert-how-do-i-speak-up-in-a-group\/"},"modified":"2015-11-30T10:49:23","modified_gmt":"2015-11-30T05:19:23","slug":"i-am-an-introvert-how-do-i-speak-up-in-a-group","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2015\/09\/i-am-an-introvert-how-do-i-speak-up-in-a-group.html","title":{"rendered":"I Am An Introvert: How Do I Speak Up In A Group?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\nDo you get very anxious and stressed in a party full of people? Do you feel energized when you focus deeply on subjects which interests you?<\/i> If your answers to these questions are Yes! and Yes! you\u2019re probably<\/b> an introvert. I emphasize on probably because most people who are shy to talk to people think that they are introverts but are not. Introverts are people who live in their own Human-sized hamster ball and doesn\u2019t get energy from interacting with other people. They tend to see other people as obnoxious predators who are trying to steal their energy and that\u2019s why the hamster ball.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
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Susan Cain in her book ‘Quiet: The Power of Introverts<\/i>‘ defines introversion and extroversion as:<\/span><\/span> <\/b><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
Introversion-<\/b> along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness- is now a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology. Introverts living in the Extrovert Ideal are like women in a man\u2019s world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
Extroversion-<\/b> is an enormously appealing personality style, but we\u2019ve turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform.<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n

Don\u2019t see introversion as something that should be cured, instead embrace who you are and try to make best of it<\/b>. You\u2019ll be amazed to know that one of the best showmen of our age Steve Jobs is an introvert. How can he deliver such amazing speeches and seem so sociable being an introvert? you may ask. In contrast to what we think Introverts can be effective communicators and exhibit strong social skills, too, as long as the issues they\u2019re discussing interest them.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
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Trying to enjoy people\u2019s company will enable you to socialize easily and efficiently. Even though you believe being with people is emotionally draining, behavior stretching can actually change your beliefs and therefore your way of being. Start easy. Talk to people with the same interests as you<\/b>, ask your friends to introduce you to mutual friends and join clubs which support your interests.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t exhaust yourself. If you feel tired from all the social contact, don\u2019t worry<\/b> it\u2019s normal! Your brain isn\u2019t used to exercising the social muscle, so give it a rest and return to it tomorrow. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable<\/b>. This one is key and applies to things besides this as well. Accept that you will feel awkward at times, but also tell yourself it\u2019s a construct of your mind. Other people won\u2019t actually start out paying enough attention to a stranger to see if they seem \u2018awkward\u2019.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
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Laugh things off (healthily), and smile. Don\u2019t box yourself in before others do (and probably weren\u2019t planning on a lot of times). An introvert doesn\u2019t need a whole gang of friends. A few well-chosen friends, mentors may be quite sufficient. That being said, remember that introverts are powerful, dedicated set of individuals who can contribute a huge amount quietly. I strongly recommend reading Susan Cain\u2019s \u201cQuiet: The power of Introverts in a World That Can\u2019t Stop Talking<\/i>\u201d as it is very helpful and provides a deep insight into understanding introversion. I emphasize the importance of understanding yourself and embracing it by ending this with her quote<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cDon\u2019t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured\u2026Spend your free the way you like, not the way you think you\u2019re supposed to.<\/b>\u201d<\/p>\n

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