{"id":4868,"date":"2016-01-12T17:11:03","date_gmt":"2016-01-12T11:41:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=4868"},"modified":"2025-10-06T15:56:25","modified_gmt":"2025-10-06T10:26:25","slug":"why-should-you-use-humor-to-manage-conflicts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2016\/01\/why-should-you-use-humor-to-manage-conflicts.html","title":{"rendered":"Why Should You Use Humor to Manage Conflicts"},"content":{"rendered":"
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In our previous post we have talked how and why we should change our mental lenses to see the lighter side of life.<\/a> In this post we look at \u00a0how humour and laughter can be used effectievly to manage conflicts, and spread the warmth and love<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I didn’t\u00a0know how powerful a tool\u00a0humor could be till the day I\u00a0accidentally discovered it. I remember I was 16 years or so, and as most teenagers, I too was a rebellious kid. My careless attitude would get on my mom’s nerves leading to a huge fight, which at times dragged for a day or two, but the yelling just wouldn’t end. For me, it felt like she hated me and picked on every move I made. It had become a routine and as much as she hated it, I hated it too.<\/p>\n

It was on a regular day, in the middle of the days fight, when my mom yelled at the top of her voice as I had again forgotten to wipe the floor after my shower. And not to my surprise she had again slipped on it. As she came to me yelling I remember having held her face in my hand all of a sudden and expressed as I\u00a0teased her, “Oh, did you fall again? Sorry!” to which she exclaimed, “of course I did..!!”. Looking at each other for a second we burst out in a fit of a laughter and that was the first time our fight ended on a good note. It was that day that I realized how my harsh words were only adding fuel to the fire when all it needed was a little humor to peace it out.<\/div>\n
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Conflicts are inescapable\u00a0when talking about a relationship. Although it does spice up the relation, but just like too much of anything is bad, too many conflicts can lead to a distorted relationship. This is the time when humor can play its role to ease out the situation and help share some lighter moments of fun.<\/div>\n
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Humor is no\u00a0magic but is a way to approach the situation, a way that helps us be in the moment, off guarded and spontaneous.<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n
So how does it work? Talking from a biological front, laughter helps in expanding the chest cavity making the place for\u00a0more oxygen. This exercise,\u00a0in turn, decreases the heart\u00a0rate making the person feel calm\u00a0by bringing\u00a0the body and mind back to its\u00a0balance.<\/div>\n
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Having to use humor in a conflict shows the openness, comfort, and commitment people have towards each other that they are able to deal with the tension in a more constructive manner. Although laughter or humor is said to be the best medicine but there are two most important things that need\u00a0to be kept in mind during its use.<\/div>\n
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  • Humor should be used in a playful manner, not as an act of mocking the other person. The aim of this is not to attack the person but to hit the conflict and neutralize it. Therefore saying hurtful things that are not appreciated but the other should be avoided.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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    • Do not use humor as a cover for ones feelings. Its good to let the conflict not get into the sanity of the relationship but using it as a tool to avoid emotions like anger, fear, pain might be dangerous and, in turn, might just distance the people involved. For example, Jack\u00a0might not be committed to one person but jokes around with everybody for he fears intimacy and the feeling of being vulnerable.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      To sum it up: humor has its own positives and negatives. It makes us feel at peace both physically and mentally hence\u00a0when used in the right manner and direction can help resolve difficult situations in life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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