{"id":18723,"date":"2021-11-25T23:24:57","date_gmt":"2021-11-25T17:54:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=18723"},"modified":"2025-10-15T15:04:50","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T09:34:50","slug":"jay-yd-warrior-ran-past-storm-of-lost-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2021\/11\/jay-yd-warrior-ran-past-storm-of-lost-relationship.html","title":{"rendered":"Jay Ran Past the Storm of Lost Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Jay<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cIn some relationships, there comes a time when the two people just outgrow each other.\u201d <\/i><\/b>– Anonymous<\/b><\/p>\n

This is the entailing journey of 25-year-old Jay (name changed), who went through a rough patch in his life and yet didn\u2019t let the same break him down. Jay works as a Software Engineer in Pune before which he was placed in Hyderabad for two years. Jay completed his Btech from Jabalpur, Madhya Pradesh and stands as a determined individual owing to his constant taste for growth. Jay in his college enjoyed sports, coding and developing games on circuits.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI have always been inspired to take up hobbies and keep trying new things. But as dark times hit me, these hobbies became a coping mechanism to distract myself from my inner pain.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"Jay<\/p>\n

As time passed, Jay started listening to podcasts and audiobooks. He also added yoga and running to his routine. Jay recalls himself enjoying terrace farming with his mother and soon he bought himself a guitar to expand his learning. \u201c<\/span>Atomic Habits\u201d <\/b>is a book Jay got inspired by which helped him inculcate his hobbies and taught him the phrase-<\/span> \u201cWhat is your why?\u201d <\/b>before initiating any hobby.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMost of my problems were personal. I was deeply in love and was in a relationship of 3-4 years until we parted ways. Meanwhile, I also lost my uncle to Covid. I was in a mess.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Jay\u2019s failure of his relationship with his then-girlfriend had wounded him deeply. This created a sense of helplessness within him as he was deeply indulged in it. The relationship felt quite one-sided to Jay often as he was always busy waiting for her replies while on the other side she was not reciprocating back the same way. Soon, Jay started developing thoughts of wasting his time while everyone around him was moving ahead.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhile the world was going through such a\u00a0 global crisis in the pandemic, I felt bothered by the fact that I had been wasting my energy on a relationship that wasn\u2019t leading anywhere. I needed a place to vent out.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"As<\/p>\n

As Jay tried venting out in front of his friends, he still couldn’t find the desired comfort that he sought. Soon, after joining his job, Jay got the opportunity for counseling in YourDOST through his company, HelpShift. By then, Jay had been seeing numerous behavioural changes within him, He had lost his appetite and was also bottling up his emotions. Being a person who liked to take up new challenges, Jay was hiding himself out from everyone around him.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMost of the time, I used to feel overwhelmed. But as the counseling sessions proceeded, I started opening up my inner pain and gradually built up trust in the process.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"Jay\u2019s<\/p>\n

Jay\u2019s first impression of his counselor was a positive one. She tried to understand the problems he was going through thoroughly and with every session, Jay felt lighter. The motive behind the counseling wasn\u2019t to find an immediate solution but mainly to vent out about the issues he was facing due to the failed relationship. Soon, Jay saw a cloud of pain clearing up from his mind. He had also started to maintain a folder in his laptop to write down his thoughts.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI eventually became more self-aware and self-caring. The counselor was very empathetic which was the exact quality and place and I was searching for.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Jay has come a long way from his rock bottom to a place of balance. Although Jay is still in the process of healing and has a long way to go, he rates his overall progress through counseling with a <\/span>4 out of 5 <\/b>stars.<\/span><\/p>\n

We, at YourDOST, feel happy to see him grow and handle his situation with such courage!<\/p>\n

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Jay’s Warrior Tips:<\/strong>
\n1. Try to talk to someone and try to have a space to vent out on your laptop or mobile.
\n2. Once you share, you get to recognize all your issues. One of those issues will be the main issue which will make everything else clearer. If needed, take a day off to think it out and later reach out to a professional.
\n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you someone who has gone through a difficult phase and emerged stronger and better, with some professional help? Share your story with us to encourage thousands of others who might be struggling.\u00a0<\/i><\/b>click here<\/a><\/i><\/b><\/a>\u00a0to submit your story.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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