{"id":17263,"date":"2021-07-12T00:01:26","date_gmt":"2021-07-11T18:31:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=17263"},"modified":"2021-11-15T12:27:21","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T06:57:21","slug":"shivangi-warrior-story-of-learning-to-embrace-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2021\/07\/shivangi-warrior-story-of-learning-to-embrace-change.html","title":{"rendered":"How Shivangi Finally Learned to Embrace Change"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"When<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cIt is not a failure to readjust my sails to fit the waters I find myself in.\u201d\u00a0<\/em>\u2015 Mackenzi Lee<\/p>\n

Change is a part of life. As simple as this may sound, it\u2019s not really a cakewalk when it comes to adopting a change. As they say, success waits at the end of our comfort zone, and Shivangi, 21, learned this the hard way.<\/p>\n

Talking about overcoming her difficulty of moving and adjusting to a new place, she went through a major transition.<\/p>\n

\u201cI did my under-graduation at Delhi University and moved to IIIT Bangalore. It was hard to adjust to both the new place and college course. I started acting out.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Gradually, things started falling into their right places for Shivangi. She had finally started getting adjusted to her new environment and what came next affected her like most of us.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe pandemic changed everything. I had to shift back home and stay with my parents. The transition that I feared was back and again, I had to go through all of these changes.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Unfortunately, these were not the only changes that Shivangi had to go through. At the same time, she was having issues in her friendship and romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I got into IIIT Bangalore, I was the first one from our friends’ circle to get into a college and my friends apparently seemed jealous. Distance grew between our friendship and I felt like I had no good friends.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\"The<\/p>\n

When Shivangi felt that she at least had her girlfriend to go to, she was encountered various issues with their relationship because of which they had to break up.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy partner used to constantly abuse me with harsh words and I couldn\u2019t take that. The breakup was hard to deal and I decided to reach out to YourDOST as it was LGBTQIA+ friendly.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Shivangi connected with her counselor Divyani who helped her in a lot of ways, especially to move on from her ex-partner.<\/p>\n

\u201cI took two sessions per week. This helped me to deal with my issues more effectively.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Shivangi had broken up with her ex-partner but it had some loose ends for which she wanted closure. She lacked the courage to confront her ex-girlfriend initially but with Divyani\u2019s guidance, she did the needful.<\/p>\n

\u201cI didn\u2019t have a proper closure after my breakup. I wanted to confront my ex. My counselor helped me gather the much-needed courage.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"Shivangi<\/p>\n

During this time, Shivangi found herself tangled in a loop of negative thoughts, and what helped her was cognitive restructuring.<\/p>\n

\u201cDivyani helped me break out of cognitive distortion which occurs when an individual often perceives their environment inaccurately and tends to have a negative bias.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Under her counselor\u2019s supervision, Shivangi began to follow the suggested tips and techniques. One such was maintaining a self-esteem journal to boost her willpower and keep her motivated throughout the day.<\/p>\n

\u201cSlowly, I could adjust to the sudden changes and regulate my emotions better. I found it easier to adjust to the lockdown and move on from my breakup.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Under<\/p>\n

Recalling the kind of support she received from her counselor, Shivangi is grateful to her for all the positive changes.<\/p>\n

At last, Shivangi wants to remind everyone that we are the only ones who know ourselves.<\/p>\n

\u201cEveryone might say you are fine but you know yourself better. So trust your guts.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\n

Shivangi\u2019s Warrior Tips:
\n1. You should always trust and help yourself.
\n2. Never step back from taking up counseling.
\n3. Everything takes time and so does a counseling process<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you someone who has gone through a difficult phase and emerged stronger and better, with some professional help? Share your story with us to encourage thousands of others who might be struggling.\u00a0<\/i><\/b>click here<\/a><\/i><\/b><\/a>\u00a0to submit your story.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cIt is not a failure to readjust my sails to fit the waters I find myself in.\u201d\u00a0\u2015 Mackenzi Lee Change is a part of life. As simple as this may sound, it\u2019s not really a cakewalk when it comes to adopting a change. As they say, success waits at the end of our comfort zone, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[38,71],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17263","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-self-growth","category-time-management"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17263","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17263"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17263\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17263"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17263"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17263"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}