{"id":16471,"date":"2021-02-11T09:32:30","date_gmt":"2021-02-11T04:02:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=16471"},"modified":"2025-10-06T15:44:56","modified_gmt":"2025-10-06T10:14:56","slug":"kabir-lockdown-warrior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2021\/02\/kabir-lockdown-warrior.html","title":{"rendered":"When Kabir Found 2020 a Tough Year to Get Through on His Own, He Decided to Seek Help"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cOur problems unite us but it is our decision to solve it that makes us stand out.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are three solutions to every issue – accept it, change it or leave it and Kabir (name changed) believes in the first two. As an engineer who is now pursuing MBA at IIM Bangalore, Kabir calls himself an ordinary guy but his willingness to rise above his problems and seek right support is what makes him extraordinary.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cLike everyone else, I was overwhelmed by 1st term at IIM. I was having a very hard time concentrating in class and was stressing out way too much. I felt that I needed to talk to someone and figured that professional help would be the best way to go about it.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

As rewarding as an IIM course can be in shaping one\u2019s career, life at any IIM is definitely not a cakewalk. It comes with it\u2019s own set of challenges and just like most, Kabit was trying his best to keep up.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"He<\/p>\n

When the 1st term at IIM was reduced by 3 weeks, it added to the course workload leaving us with no time to catch up with it. The whole environment became very overwhelming.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

At times, everyone feels overwhelmed by expectations, responsibilities and lack of ability to perform but dwelling on that feeling isn\u2019t ideal. With the pandemic in action, Kabir found it difficult to keep it all together.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

During lockdown, it was tough to keep in touch with regular friends. The academic stress was real and I was not able to figure out how I should deal with it. This made me feel helpless, and even caused anxiety attacks at night.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What further amplified Kabir\u2019s stress was the project submission which didn\u2019t go as per his expectations.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI had a pretty bad experience with my project team. We had people who were either hostile or unwilling to put in their part of effort. This was very disappointing and made it quite hard to manage our work. All of this got me even more stressed and I started to panic about things.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Finding the perfect balance between getting good grades, having a social life, and staying healthy can be challenging and Kabir was already caught up in the strands of an amalgamated routine.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Things<\/p>\n

\u201cThings were very hectic. At times, I\u2019d be so occupied with project presentation that I wouldn\u2019t even know when I’d be going to bed.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

At first, just like most of us, Kabir waited out the storm of his problems, thinking that it may stop or change but when he eventually realised that he could no more manage his feelings on his own, he sought out for help.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

2020 was a bad year that I found difficult to overcome on my own. It\u2019s satisfying today to see that I actually connected with a professional as my sessions were very helpful.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Kabir believes in honesty and facing the facts. He doesn\u2019t deny that applying his counselor\u2019s suggestions to his daily routine was easy.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThe kind of course I’m in, it can get difficult at times to stick to some of the suggestions. It’s either that or something comes along which upsets you even more and just pushes you back to where you started – Stage 1.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

During his counseling sessions with Madhura Saha, Kabir came across a technique that he was aware of but hadn\u2019t really been able to involve himself in.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThe stress and lack of concentration used to make it hard for me to sit and study for long hours. For this, Ms. Madhura suggested Pomodoro Technique.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

With his counselors help, Kabir got the right motivation and direction to understand the technique and tailor it on a personal level.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

As someone with a short attention span, for a regular 20 min of work which ideally requires 5 min of break, mine used to get extended to 15 minutes of break. So slowly, I inculcated the techniques as per my concentration span and I\u2019m off to a good start.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

To help Kabir relax himself in panicky situations, the expert suggested him to follow grounding and breathing exercises<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThe relaxation techniques that I follow are good. Of course, situations can sometimes make you so overwhelmed that you may not remember to do these immediately but I\u2019m now aware of the steps to practise them and I do try to follow.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Personal comfort is what Kabir treats most important and for those who are apprehensive of seeking professional guidance, he says self-exploration is the key.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"He<\/p>\n

\u201cCounseling is an option for your benefit. Just go for it. It’s either going to work or not going to work. If it works, that’d be good for you and you won\u2019t have anything to lose. In case it doesn’t work, things may not change but you’ll surely be taking something with you – a different perspective.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

With Madhura\u2019s help, Kabir has been truly able to pin down his issues and learn some tips to deal with them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m really thankful to Madhura. Here I go again – thank you but I know that if she hears this, she’d tell me there’s nothing to thank her about just how she says it every time I thank her.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Today, Kabir finds himself in a better place. He lets his problems flow in, doesn\u2019t shut them down but also tries to work on them. Recently, he also landed himself a job in his choice of sector during placements and we are happy for him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Are you someone who has gone through a difficult phase and emerged stronger and better, with some professional help? Share your story with us to encourage thousands of others who might be struggling.\u00a0click here<\/a><\/a>\u00a0to submit your story.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Kabir’s Warrior Tips:
\n1. There are three solutions to every issue – accept it, change it or leave it
\n2.\u00a0Self-exploration is the key to most of oyur problems
\n3. Counseling is an option for your benefit. Just go for it
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