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Abhishek, 21 is a final year B-Tech student at one of India\u2019s top private engineering colleges. When you speak with Abhishek, his intelligence and self-awareness just betray themselves. But just about a year back, this confident person was facing an emotional crisis of this own.<\/span><\/p>\n How it started was Abhishek getting betrayed by his friends. Unfortunately, how it ended up was with his confidence and self-esteem in shambles.<\/span><\/p>\n I had some really good friends. But things with them ended in a bad way. Their betrayal was a lot for me to take.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Abhishek found that people who he thought were friends would say unsavory things about him behind his back. He distanced himself from them and found himself living a very lonely existence.<\/span><\/p>\n I used to suffer from insomnia. I would generally be able to sleep after 5 AM. But now I couldn’t sleep at all.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Emotionally, Abhishek was struggling too. He would feel like he wasn\u2019t good enough to be liked by anyone. He found himself consumed by anger.<\/span><\/p>\n I wanted revenge. I would intentionally pick fights with people. I wanted people to know how I felt. But it didn\u2019t really work and started making me feel worse.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Once, while Abhishek was speaking with a Psychologist cousin of his, she pointed out to him that he was displaying signs of depression and he should get professional help. But it still took him a year to actually take that step and approach YourDOST for support. Abhishek connected with Psychologist, Ms. Amulya DSL.<\/span><\/p>\n Initially I was very skeptical. Talking with friends hadn\u2019t helped. I wasn\u2019t sure how counseling would be helpful. But Amulya gave me hope that things would get better.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n In the very first session, Abhishek felt that Amulya would be of help. So he told her everything about what he was going through.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n We talked about each and every issue. We each had our own perspective which didn\u2019t match a lot of the times. But she respected my perspective.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Abhishek found Amulya\u2019s method of counseling really valuable. She gave him lots of homework. She would give him examples, techniques to use, and asked him to journal.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n During video sessions, she explained things in a pictorial way. She also gave me useful examples like you need to protect yourself just like you would protect a little child.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Amulya\u2019s guidance has proved to be beneficial for Abhishek and he feels more confident. He still has his bad days but he\u2019s able to cope with them better.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Things don\u2019t affect me as badly as they used to. They may bother me but I let them just pass.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Abhishek continues to be highly motivated about getting better.<\/span><\/p>\n A book I read once said that – the basic human nature is to fight and be violent. But peace is difficult. – I\u2019m just trying to bring peace into my life<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n When asked if he had any parting words for all those who might be struggling like he did, he gives an example from Harry Potter.<\/span><\/p>\n Either you take therapy or you do it yourself. No one\u2019s going to do it for you. In Harry Potter & The Chamber of Secrets, the Basilisk is like a demon inside our brain in a deep corner called the chamber of secrets. You have to fight your demons. When you see a demon, you may freeze. But once you fight it, it may injure you, it may affect you in some way, bit you\u2019ll emerge stronger.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Are you someone who has gone through a difficult phase and emerged stronger and better, with some professional help? Share your story with us to encourage thousands of others who might be struggling.\u00a0click here<\/a><\/a>\u00a0to submit your story.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Abhishek\u2019s Warrior Tips: Abhishek, 21 is a final year B-Tech student at one of India\u2019s top private engineering colleges. When you speak with Abhishek, his intelligence and self-awareness just betray themselves. But just about a year back, this confident person was facing an emotional crisis of this own. How it started was Abhishek getting betrayed by his friends. 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\n1. Fight your demons
\n2.\u00a0Look for peace not fights
\n3. Take therapy. You have to do it. No one else will do it for you
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