{"id":13460,"date":"2017-05-23T15:20:35","date_gmt":"2017-05-23T09:50:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=13460"},"modified":"2017-05-23T15:20:35","modified_gmt":"2017-05-23T09:50:35","slug":"move-on-doesnt-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2017\/05\/move-on-doesnt-work.html","title":{"rendered":"Ending a Lover&#8217;s Fight With &#8220;Move On&#8221; Might Just Be The Worst Idea"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every couple in a relationship finds ways to neutralise conflicts. You would want to end a fight before it does any damage to the relationship. Unfortunately, this common way of avoiding fights can backfire to create more future conflicts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Phrases like \u201cmove on,\u201d \u201cget over it\u201d may infuriate your partner. During an argument when you know it is heading nowhere, you tend to use these phrases. But they only create more damage. You may just spark a new debate.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/23151605\/movingonbad-1-640x350.jpg\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-13461\" src=\"http:\/\/yourdost-blog-images.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/23151605\/movingonbad-1-640x350.jpg\" alt=\"lovers fight\" width=\"640\" height=\"350\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>After numerous fights with my partner, I realised that unless you have discussed everything, the argument isn\u2019t over. Things like \u201cmove on\u201d can make you sound dismissive. Instead, you can ask your partner for some time to calm down. It can lead to a productive discussion instead of an awful argument.<\/p>\n<p>When a fight is distressing you may feel the need to bring it to a close. It can happen that you have diverted from the important part but continue fighting. That\u2019s when you need to ask each other, \u201cwhy are we really fighting?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When you introspect the reason of the fight, you would both realise your mistakes. You would understand how to overcome such issues the next time. This is a healthier way to move on.<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever thought, \u201chow can I move on?\u201d? The phrase \u201cmove on\u201d is a vague conclusion to a fight. You can discuss with your partner about how you can let go of the fight. You can come to a mutual agreement and conclude the fight. By communicating and coming to an agreement together, you are not only ending a fight but also making your bond stronger.<\/p>\n<p>Even if you want to help, \u201cmove on\u201d or \u201cget over it\u201d are not helpful. To evolve as partners you need to try to help each other instead of antagonising by saying \u201cmove on.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Having trouble in your relationship\/marriage? Talk to an <a href=\"http:\/\/www.yourdost.com\/talkItOut?yd_source=YDBlog&amp;yd_medium=InternalLinking&amp;yd_content=MoveOnDoesntWork&amp;yd_campaign=BlogPostPromotion\">Expert at YourDOST<\/a> for personalised guidance<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Every couple in a relationship finds ways to neutralise conflicts. You would want to end a fight before it does any damage to the relationship. Unfortunately, this common way of avoiding fights can backfire to create more future conflicts. Phrases like \u201cmove on,\u201d \u201cget over it\u201d may infuriate your partner. During an argument when you [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[39,85],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13460","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love-relationship","category-relationship-issues"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13460","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13460"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13460\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13460"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13460"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13460"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}