{"id":13092,"date":"2017-04-14T15:31:03","date_gmt":"2017-04-14T10:01:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=13092"},"modified":"2021-11-10T12:26:02","modified_gmt":"2021-11-10T06:56:02","slug":"swatis-past-continued-to-haunt-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2017\/04\/swatis-past-continued-to-haunt-her.html","title":{"rendered":"Swati\u2019s Past Continued To Haunt Her"},"content":{"rendered":"

As a kid, Swati was molested by a family member. This left her traumatised but she never found the courage to tell her parents about it. Consequently, she had commitment and intimacy issues, and she would stay away from boys. A few years later, she got the shock of her life when her parents started looking for a groom of her marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cLike any typical middle-class family, my parents wanted me to settle down and get married.\u201d<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

She had to meet several men along with their families. She pretended to be another person altogether in front of them. She started feeling suffocated because of this. She felt lifeless. She would put on a fake smile to mask her true feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI rejected every guy. I told them the truth that I wasn\u2019t ready for marriage and that I was there just for the sake of my parents.\u201d<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Things got so bad for her that she even contemplated suicide. One day, she came across a TV show which spoke about depression and mentioned an emergency contact number. She noted down the number and gave them a call when no one was at home. She shared her issues with them and they said that they would give her a call in a couple of days. Four days later, they called and explained things to her mother. Swati was hiding and listening to their conversation. At that moment, she just hoped that her mother would understand. The same day, Swati\u2019s father got the news from her mother about Swati\u2019s mental distress. Swati\u2019s father broke down and apologised for not understanding what she had gone through all the while. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cAfter hearing the news, my father apologised and hugged me tightly. It was the tightest hug and I felt liberated that moment.\u201d<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

He promised her that her marriage would only be at her discretion.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Swati scheduled meetings with a psychiatrist who was also her father\u2019s friend. She felt relieved and saw a lot of improvement just after two sittings. She is now pursuing a mass communication degree. She also states that her trust, commitment and other issues are long gone. She feels much more healthy overall now.<\/p>\n

Disclaimer: Name changed to protect identity.<\/span><\/p>\n

Are you someone who has gone through a difficult phase and emerged stronger and better, with some professional help? Share your story with us to encourage thousands of others who might be struggling.\u00a0<\/i><\/b>click here<\/a><\/i><\/b><\/a>\u00a0to submit your story.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As a kid, Swati was molested by a family member. This left her traumatised but she never found the courage to tell her parents about it. Consequently, she had commitment and intimacy issues, and she would stay away from boys. A few years later, she got the shock of her life when her parents started […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[70],"tags":[170],"class_list":["post-13092","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-trauma-and-ptsd","tag-mental-health"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13092","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13092"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13092\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13092"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13092"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13092"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}