{"id":11163,"date":"2016-08-05T17:39:28","date_gmt":"2016-08-05T12:09:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/?p=8651"},"modified":"2016-08-05T17:39:28","modified_gmt":"2016-08-05T12:09:28","slug":"inlaws-stress-and-tips-to-deal-with-it-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourdost.com\/blog\/2016\/08\/inlaws-stress-and-tips-to-deal-with-it-2.html","title":{"rendered":"9 Tips to deal with "In-Laws Stress""},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cPriya! Is this what you have learnt in your family?\u201d\u00a0<\/strong> commented her mother in law. And it made her silent for weeks as she was sensitive. It shattered her expectations of her new family! Priya\u00a0and Roy were newly married. They loved each other. However the marriage was stressful, and they did not know the reason.<\/p>\n

In India, marriage is merging of two families, and consequently, the process is messy. Two individuals from a\u00a0different culture, tradition, parenting styles, beliefs, and values need to compromise, not only among themselves but their families too. And these families affect the emotional well-being of the individual.<\/p>\n

\"in-laws-giving-stress\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Men and women are affected by in-laws in their own different ways.<\/strong> The issues may be different, but the stress is the same! The way this stress affects their relationship and marriage is the common point that needs to be observed. However, in an Indian scenario, ideally a women is expected to adjust to her new family, hence the greater share of stress from her in-laws is borne by her.<\/p>\n

From the husband\u2019s perspective<\/strong><\/h2>\n

So analysing the situation from a husband\u2019s perspective, as soon as he decides to tie a knot he has to start mingling with his in-laws, trying to build trust through his words. He has to be self-confident about his financial and social resources which might be questioned, commented or sometimes insulted by his in-laws. This causes stress and tension between multiple relationships and the marriage sometimes\u00a0get\u00a0affected.\u00a0If he is not given the due respect which he expects or if he is not able to meet the expectations and demands of his in-laws, he might bear a\u00a0greater share of stress in order to maintain his family and marriage.<\/p>\n

From the wife\u2019s perspective<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Marriage and the thought of moving into her partner\u2019s family may cause anxiety in the first place. Being accepted and being able to adjust to an entirely new family can cause stress. Here in-laws can cause a lot of emotional stress and drain out\u00a0<\/p>\n